Most of my friends have decided that it's a great idea to do meth or coke. I have two friends left of my crew who don't do this shit. I'm so upset because I've been friend with these people for years. One of them I was basically sisters with. I've known her since I was in 9th grade of high school. I don't know how to deal with this shit. I don't want these types of drugs around me, so I stopped hanging out with them. I want to help them see how much they are fucking up their lives, but I have no clue as to how to deal with this shit. I'm afraid that they will freak out on me and not see the truth. How should I deal with this? Should I block them out of my life and hope that they realize how much they're ruining their lives? This is such a hard situation to deal with. I'm seriously down to having 3 friends now and I'm scared that these people with decide to do this shit too. Anyone going through this too? I feel like it comes with my age. Like people drop out of college and develop drug problems or stay in college because they are still focused. The friends who decide not to go to college join in with the junkies or starts a family. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
I am very farmiliar with your situation and it does suck... a lot. But if there's one thing I've learned about drug addicts it's that you can't help someone who doesn't want help. The best you can do is explain to them what they are doing to themselves and others and offer them your helping hand in quitting, but in my experiences most of the time that does't work. You are most likely just going to have to hope that they realize what they are doing before they destroy themselves. I wish you and your friends luck and no matter what, be happy. Life's too short not to be.
Yea it happened to most of my friends as well, one of my younger friends is about to get lost with heroin, wish I could help him but oh well.
if you go about it carefully, you can still be friends with them.. but if at any point you get angry, holier then thou, or start raising your voice, they will flip and not talk to you anymore... when someone tells me in a calm, concerned manner that they think i should cut down on drug use, i end up respecting them more, just because i know their only motivation is that they care for me and want the best but when i start to feel harrassed by someone that i feel is just giving me shit, i drop them as a friend in the end tho they prolley wont change.. but you gotta keep in mind, it is their life, and they are going to make their own decisons regardless of what you think
Thank you all. I'm trying to talk to them. I'm thinking about moving away from this town though. I can't stand the number of junkies around here.
Are you sure your not just over reacting? All you say is that your friends have decided to do meth or coke. A lot of my friends would do coke every now and again but it in no way means their junkies or their ruining thier lives. How much are they doing? Are they getting into huge amounts of debt over it? Are they still working or going to school/college? Plenty of people do a bit of coke at the weekend or some meth if there going out to a club but don't have a major problem with it and never develop one. Having said that of course some people will develop a problem, one of my best friends had a huge coke addiction, he started selling it to feed his habit and ended up getting into over 20,000 debt. It was just lucky for him that I was good freinds with the people he owed the money to and I stepped in to buy him some time and talked them out of putting a bullet in the back of his head. We tryed to talk to him about it and let him know how close he was to being found shot dead in a lane somewhere but he kept saying that he was on top of things and he was getting himself together. After a while when he still wasn't paying his debts off and was still doing coke the peope he owed felt like they were losing face and I had to let them put a bullet through his knee cap. That finally got through to him, and he stopped doing coke once he was released from hospital and he borrowed money from his family and cleared what he owed, but if it wasn't for me and two of our other friends staying friends with him when he was constantly fucking everyone over he'd be stone dead now.
If you are truely worried about them dont lose contact with. Stay around them (make some ground rules saying you dont want meth or coke around you)... Dont disconnect from there, chances are you going to make them go deeper into the drug because they have nothing to do, or there is no one really to stop them.
I was one of those people who my friends decided to give up one too because I experiemented with drugs. I hate them even more to this day. I am not, or ever was the junkie or addict they used to call me. I have a master's degree and a great job, life, etc. What is ironic, I saw one of them years later high as hell on extacy at a club trying to talk to me. I couldn't help but laugh at her fro being such a hypocrite. Saying that you don't want to be around those drugs is fine. Even trying to help them is fine. But shutting them out of your lives hurts them.
I agree with Alloy, and the same thing happen to me... Not the whole second part, but that would be funny if it does...
Its never a good idea to meth or coke. Basically its never a good idea to do any drug besides marijuana.
i totaly agree &bumble uknow im 1 freind whod never leave ya for negative drugs..in fact your stuck with me..so deal withit love ya lots my sis
hey, dident read all the posts, i hope i can be of help some way or another... this is shawn by the way, im usin my friends account i was one of the people u were talkin about, i have an addictive personality, do things to extreme, my whole life has been a pattern of it, my last obsession im aware of was (and is) drugs... they make me feel different and i love it, so why not do it all the time, its an obsession everything has to do with it, all i thoguht about, all i wanted in life, the only real source of feelin good... i went to rehab and when i got out used alcohol heavy for a while i started goin to AA meeting ()not just for alc. iw as into opiates and MDMA and anything else that i could find anywhere, even heavy dxm use) anyways i hit a bottom a few times, i know what will happen if i go out and use, and let the obsession take over, ill just die emotionally mentally and eventually physically. basically once the addiction really gets u, the only thing that can really get the person out is to admit they have a problem, and to hit a bottom bad enough to make them WANT to quiq... i have more to say but i dont wanna type anymore, u got questions ask i guess
fucking immature self destructive behaviour, when you older your think what a fucking little dumb **** you were. expecially if you fuck yourself up alot, stupid mindless bastard. arhaha sorry, is jsut my sister has that attitude and its F-ing stupid
i know someone thats dead from meth. i know 2 people that are in jail from meth. i know one person that lost everything he owned including his teeth to meth. its so lame. i know hella people who do coke but think acid is hella bad for you. its annoying but its good to know the truth.
