I was just wondering if opposites attract. there is a guy that I am interested in, but we are so different! different race, age, he is really creative and artistic and I am not! but our core values are similar, family, caring, and he has a good heart.
I believe opposites do attract in certain situations. Well, at least bipolar opposites attract. Look at Kurt and Courtney and my bf and I. We are very different and we get along great. Just depends on the two people and they're quirks and shit. Peace and Love
I hope simialar people attract to because this guy i want to date is very close to me as a person in all his opinions.
Well, if your core values are similar, I'd say there's hope for the both of you. Anyway, let me tell you about my experience with my girlfriend so far: Ayumi and I come from very different backgrounds. She's Japanese; I'm Filipino. She comes from a culture known for its discipline and work ethic; I come from a much more laidback culture known for its tardiness and ability to retain a sense of humor in the bleakest of circumstances. Her family is small; mine is an entire village next to hers. She's into scuba diving, mountain climbing and spelunking. I'm into music, theatre, literature and well, eating. Her English is good, but it doesn't come naturally to her because she has to think in Japanese first then translate it into English in her head before she can say it. On the other hand, English for me is as natural as Filipino. She finds snakes disgusting; I once considered getting a python for a pet. As far as I know, she does not approve of drugs. I on the other hand would never refuse a joint. I can dance circles around her while she can't dance to save her life - but she can kick my ass any time on the basketball court. We do have some similarities: we share an interest in aikido. Both Japanese and Filipinos are known for their hospitality and respect for their elders. We've both worked with children. We both like rock. We both like to drink occasionally. But we're mostly different - and that's what drew me to her in the first place! Cause here was someone unlike anyone else I'd ever known, someone so different that she aroused my curiousity. Anyway, the important thing to remember is, are you willing to not just accept your differences but to celebrate them as well?
My boyfriend and I do not like to do similar activities. We still love each other. He goes out and does what he likes and I do what I like. Sometimes we both wish the other would join us, and on occasion we have tried something new to please the other person, but all in all, we are individuals and we love each other for that reason.
Even when you think there is, there is no body like you. It is just how long it will take to see the differences. No matter who you are with you have to be able to handle someone else having different wants and hopes. You should try and be a part of theirs and they should try to be a part of yours.
I think opposites attract in many situations when both are open minded. If your personalities compliment eachother and you have a mutual respect for each others differences then it could work. I personally love to be around people opposite of me because I like to learn new things. If either of you are even a little close-minded then don't expect anything long term..
