i'd really love someone to explain this to me.

so the ex boyfriend and i hadn't been talking at all for a good 4 or 5 months. and to be honest, i was totally cool with that. i mean, we were great friends and all, but the past was just always getting in the way. well, lately we've been talking now and then again. and i'm fine with that now, because i've gotten to a point where i've totally forgiven him for everyhting. well, tonight i thought i'd be the bigger person and apologize. and we're talking about how things are fine now, and out of no where he says "the only thing i regret is letting you go." WHAT THE FUCK?!?! i mean, tell me if i'm wrong, but isn't this the guy that fucked the brains outta some other chick and left me for her? isn't this the guy that strung me along for months just to get what he wanted when he wanted it? shit, he's LIVING with the girl! i just dont understand what would make a guy say such a thing. and then he started trying to ask me if we had a future.

grrrr! i seriously just do not know how to handle this! i was just now getting over him and now he has to do shit like this? i dont understand it. i mean, a part of me still wants to be with him forever. and the rational part of me says that i've given him enough chances and that if i keep letting me in, he'll just keep hurting me. but i just dont know how to handle this. he's been the love of my life thus far, and if he's serious... i just dont know how to ignore it and let him go.

SHIT!

 

If I had to guess, he's probably found out the grass was greener back on your side of the fence, and regrets taking the leap. Or he thinks he can get you in bed, one of the two.

Either way, sounds like you had good reason to dump him, you're best off just walking away and finding someone who will treat you with respect. No more contact, cold turkey.

PlumpLvr

 

Yeah, I'd pretty much pretend he never said that. If he's living with her, I'd say it sounds like he's trying to have you both and one on the side.

 

Pretend it was words spoken in the heat and ambiance of that moment and move foreward

 

hmmm. well if you forgive him, then he will probably cheat on you again because he knows how easy it is for you to forgive him, plus what about the other girl, does she know that he left you for her? he's about to do the same thing to her. i guess in a way, there's mostly all piggish men out there who think with there dicks so i guess i'd say heck if you love the guy then take him back. all this talk about love makes me want a lover.

dannayelli

 

This sounds sensible to me, if you can handle it. If you can't, if you still have feelings for him, you might want to consider staying away from him for a while.

Last May, I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years. No one cheated on anyone, but there were a lot of reasons we were over. Now, in the last few months, we can hang out and spend time together and enjoy each others' company. He's just about the best friend I have right now, and it remains platonic. It can happen, but it takes time. But if either of us had feelings for the other, and started talking about it, it would change everything.

 

Kick him out of your life now, or your going to be sorry.

 

What he said was stupid. Listen to erzebet. She knows everything. Guys say dumb things like that, and if he realized that you were better, well tough. He fucked up. He can deal with the consequences of his actions.

 

:$

 

Walk away and don't look back-there are millions of other guys why still keep putting energy and love into some shit that's over?