Looking for love... In all the wrong places?

I've always been the romantic type of guy... but so far in my travesl that only seems to help some of the time. Lately I've been finding that its not so difficult to find women to have sex with but I want so much more, and it seems that within my social circles all the girls that I like either don't like me or are previously attatched.

To some extent this has to do with my recent relocation to my home town, but also I think there is something else. Lately I seem to find myself lowering my standards to get affection / sex. While I don't really consider this a sin, I'm constantly tip toing around things that bother me to keep the peace and am worried about hurting lovers feelings.

I guess what I'm looking for is a practical yet spiritual thinking lady friend who can at least relate to my beliefs and has a similarly paced sex drive(we're talking no less than once a day when settings allow). Also we both need to have the emotional equipment nescessary to work out compromise between each other. I want a woman who is strong yet some what differing in opinion(how else are we to learn from each other) who can engage in arguement that is based on logic and debate wrather than emotional hang ups... Is this too much to ask or am I just not looking hard enough?
-MOR
(Oh P.S. its not in my top 3 most important factors but its definitly #4 that my partners be relatively as physically attractive as I am, call me shallow if you will)

 

"I've always been the romantic type of guy... but so far in my travesl that only seems to help some of the time. Lately I've been finding that its not so difficult to find women to have sex with but I want so much more, and it seems that within my social circles all the girls that I like either don't like me or are previously attatched."
AGREED

as far as the rest, I am against casual sex, I do not think it is immoral, I just find it to be gross
but I do recognize that many good relationships can start from a sexual basis, so you should not necessarily view that as a bad sign relationship-wise, one night stands are not good, but if it is someone that you remain in contact with, it can be a very good thing

as far as finding the right people, I think that sometimes it just has to be left to luck, or if you rather, God or fate

 

Look in grocerie stores, and divorce court ordered classes.

 

Don't settle... you can invest an incredible amount of time trying to make it work with someone you really shouldn't be with. I was a rescuer, and I always chose women who needed me much more than I needed them. Then I would stick around out of a sense of making things work when I shouldn't have been there in the first place.

As for casual sex, I've said it before here and I'll keep saying it... Make your own rules about sex and then follow them.

Oh, but I should point out one thing... in an argument, NEVER expect logic to win. In most arguments, when you win, you've really lost in the long run. No one likes to be wrong. If you're heading for an argument, ask yourself if it's worth being right. Will it matter in the long run? Is it worth the emotional turmoil? Is the outcome important to the relationship? I'm not saying cave in on everything, just pick your battles carefully. Never argue just to win the point.

 

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