im in year 12 and am aout to graduate in 2 months. my dad has never been to any of my end-of-year concerts or anythin which doesnt phase me cos they werent that important cos school was comin back teh next year. but this year its really important to me that he does come to my graduation and he says that he wont i dont know how to convince him that he should be there to see me get my certificate. any ideas? lv sunshine
pretty much the same as my kids dad. never went to anything, and then the only time he did, the bugger fell asleep leaving my daughter mortified. his excuse...he was tired. duh! he was never invited to anything else...but maybe that was his plan.
Just sit down with him and have a chat. Tell him how important this is and how hurt you'll be if he isn't there to see you on your special day.
Since it's so important to you maybe you should sweeten the deal with a bribe and a sacrifice. Maybe something like, if he comes to your graduation you'll take your parents out to dinner afterwards and pick up the bill.
that would help if he would actually let me get a job so i had money. at the mmt i'm rely on them. and even if i did have a job and paid for it, he would still claim the money was his which i can't stand when he says stuff like that
He says your money is his even when you worked for it and earned it yourself? He sounds like a real prick. That's practically saying he owns you.
I would just sit down with him and tell him how much it means to you. Whatever you do though, I hope it goes well. My father wasn't around for most of my life, and then eventually he came around, and he is a completely changed person now. He is always there for me, and he wouldnt ever miss out on anything in my life.
You poor thing. I couldn't imagine not wanting to be there for my childrens' accomplishments. Just tell him how you feel, that it would mean a lot to you to see him there, that you want to share this milestone of your life with him. Good luck sweetie. {{{Hugs}}}
