That I'm not sacrificing my life to go to University, get married, have kids, and do one job for the rest of my life. Life is too short for routine. You only live once, and I am doing it on my own terms. I want to see everything that this world has to offer. I want to travel, and experience new things with my friends. They will tell me it's peer pressure, or that I'm young and immature, and that I need too seek other alternatives. But this is what I want. I would regret not living life for me everyday of my life if I let them influence me into something I don't want. I did look into University programs briefly, both Art's and Science. It's just not for me, and I'm sorry. I need to do what makes me happiest. My parents, they don't like my friends, but they made so many snap judgements on them. They think all we do is get shitfucked, and that if I continue being with them, then my life will end in the gutter. But they are wrong. We are all hippies. We are all good people, we have no beef with anyone. We always keep the peace, we get good marks in school. And then we are all moving out west together in June. It's just so fucked up. PEACE.
if your parents are paying your way, you gotta play by their rules. If you want out on your own to do your own thing, you have to be able to financially support yourself. You might find, after working for minimum wage or tips a few years, that college isn't such a bad idea after all. Maybe you just aren't ready for it yet, you are young and have plenty of time to change your mind and go get that education your parents want you to have. But I do agree, you have to do it for you, because it's what you want to do, not because someone else thinks it's what you should do.
I plan on getting a job, I know they won't pay my way. I've worked in a Law Office since I was twelve, and I am moving West in June, pay is higher there. I can probably get a good job with decent wages.
They love you, so try talking to them about how you feel..Im sure everything will work itself out !!! proud mama of 4 sister erzebet
People value life differently. Some a piece of land, no power ect but also no bills is heaven, others all sorts of electronics and debt is heaven, some still no land just traveling, doing odd jobs to get by, sleeping in a different place ect is life for them. JUst understand they want what they feel is socially best for you in your future, they love you but you do have to live your own life.
Although they are only trying to do what they believe is best for you, if you don't feel it is best for you and you are equipt to deal with paying your own way etc which it seems you are, then tellthem. Sure it'll work out Here's wishing you luck.
uni isn't for everyone. i know some who've gone to escape parental control and love 'living the life', others enjoy accumulating knowledge but hate all the other uni stuff. if you aren't ready, don't go. i'm sure you will eventually find your niche, but it's a bad idea to go because your parents want it. good luck to you, enjoy life!
I love college, but if you don't like college, it's a waste of time and money. It requires a lot of work, and if you don't care, you won't do the work. If you don't do the work, you'll eventually either drop out any or flunk out. People don't get that, especially if they don't go to college. They think college is a bunch of kids throwing parties and going to concerts and finding ways to get out of going to class. There are people like that, but they last about a semester. You're parents think they're doing what's best for you, but at some point, you're just going to need to stand your ground.
All that is hard to do without a job. You will catch on when Mom and Dad are not feeding/clothing you. You will work either way. One you get to go to school most likely getting supported the whole time while you have more freedom or you get to try to work mostly crappy jobs trying to get yourself the basics of survival. I would go the first way myself. Housing, food, utilities, etc are a lot higher as well. In the end you have to do your own thing but don't think that means you won't regret it for a long time to come.
I know exactly how you feel. I am not willing to give up my life to work at a blind store and bring my kids to hockey practice twice a week like everyone else around here does. If this sounds familiar, I live pretty close to you - PEI. I have no idea how people can resign themselves to such a bring and monotonous life, but I sure as hell can't. Good on you for wanting something more.
There is certain freedom that comes with education. Being uneducated and unskilled leaves you with the worst choices of making a living. It's quite hard to travel and live free without money. Being educated does not mean you have to have kids and get some crappy job for the rest of you life. Thats what happens when you end up with a family and no skills. One of my friends, who is one of the most educated people I know personally with two PHDs, lives a life of great freedom. He get to pick and choose when and where he works and get paid highly to do it. You won't find that freedom "out west" with some job. I feel lucky I became got an education early. I was able to follow the dead and hitch hike around and when it came time to make money I had something to do that was much better than a minimum wage entry level job. I have been paid to travel to many different countries in the course of my work. My education gave me the earning power to own my 10 acre homestead in rural Alaska without bank financing. Sure at 17 the thought of more school and the doing the grind to just make ends meet sounds like a crappy idea, but to me it sounds like doing the grind with out skills is much worse. Go get the education. What you do with your life afterwards is all up to you. With an education you will have more choices in the end.
If by out west you mean California, they might pay higher here (minimum wage is $7.25, I believe) but the housing is outrageous. Try $1200 (and up) a month for a 2 bedroom apartment. Or $800 (and up) for a 2-bdr apt. but in an area that isn't as nice. And then you've got your electric bill, food, internet, and furniture to pay for. You should at least try a local community college that's only 2 years. You can still get your associate's degree and not have to be stuck in college for the full four years. And you'll get paid higher with an associate's than just a high school diploma.
Hey there I too was in a similar situation, except i took the bait and followed my parents wishes...I was on a full ride playing college baseball in Texas, had my housing paid for under scholarship, and my parents giving me 500$ a month just to play with. CouldNT ask for more right? Well wrong, 10 months ago i walked into my coaches office tossed him my hat and quit, i told my parents about it later that day, and a week later i put EVERYTHING I COULD FIT INTO MY CAR AND DROVE TO FLORIDA WITH 700$ IN MY POCKET... I guess what im tryin to say here, is even if you have all the the "right" things at your fingertips, if happiness isnt there, there is no point of being there... I will not lie to you it was hard, and i was definately in the "red" but even being as broke as i was i wouldnt have traded it for anything, because i was free and happy... College is good in a sense, but everyone now a days goes to college, live life as you want kiddo, the rest will fall into place... Take it from a happy, free spirited 20 year old, i currently have a decent job,living in a great place, and i am currently taking a few college courses as we speak...Not sure of my degree just yet, but im sure i love learning and caring on intellectual conversations.. if not for the job security, go to school (even if a little bit at a time..take breaks between semesters if you want) to be a intellegent person, and realize and understand the things you see and experience in your journeys.. But most of all be a happy person man, thats the only way to live.... May all your dreams come true brother... Peace... Your Buddy Chaser
i feel this is wise. everyone goes down different paths, but in today's world there are way more advantages to school than disadvantages. i'm a bit of a late bloomer, as i decided to take a couple years off after high school - i worked and traveled a lot, and had a good time. but i got real tired of dead end jobs and decided to pursue an education in something that interests me and that i could enjoy but still make a decent living from, and also have fun doing. i'm 24 now and only a sophomore in college (most of my friends my age have already graduated), but i'm glad i took a break after high school, or i might have just burnt out on it. i decided to do this, after giving myself time for exploration: i have always loved to cook for people, and i have a passion for health. my ultimate decision has become to do a double major in nutritional science and dietetics, and after i'm done with that, i'd like to go to culinary school to perfect my skills and become a professional chef. then i'll be a registered dietician, a nutritionist, and a chef. with those credentials the possibilities for very interesting jobs is pretty infinite. people need to eat, people need to be healthier. people will ALWAYS like good food. there ya go. it is going to be a lot of hard work to get there, but a lot less hard to endure than a lifetime of dead end retail jobs that will never take me anywhere. i guess what i'm saying is don't completely give up on college just because it doesn't appeal to you now. it can definitely work to your advantage if you give yourself time to really figure out what interests you and how you could make a career out of it for yourself. you don't have to go right into a university, but still keep it as an option in the future. going to school doesn't mean you have to become a boring nine to fiver square. also, if you do end up having a kid before you get an education, you'll find yourself regretting that lack of skill, believe me. my own mom is a good example of this - she got lucky and ended up with my stepdad (whom i consider more my dad than my read dad) who had gotten an education, but in the beginning when it was just me and her, it was so hard for her to make ends meet. she really, really wished she had gotten an education so when she had kids, she'd be able to support them. i think most moms who don't have a college education will agree with me. just something to think about. if you're a woman, there's always a possibility you could have kids, so be prepared for anything
another point is that, depending on what you go for, college can provide a lot of really good opportunities to travel. i know lots of people who've been exchange students and got to study abroad in europe and asia, and LOVED their experiences. they got to travel and see different parts of the world while still earning college credit. just something to keep in mind. at 17 i couldn't figure out what i wanted to do. i'm glad i took time off, don't get me wrong. it gave me time to look at all my interests and figure out which ones would be feasable for me to pursue and excel at. in addition to my culinary and nutrition interests, i'm a freelance filmmaker - none of my short films have made it to Sundance yet...cause I haven't submitted them because i'm very critical of my own work. but i guess the point i'm trying to make is that if you make a career for yourself, you can have more time to pursue all of your talents. people who work dead end jobs don't get free time to pursue passions. people who have careers generally get more free time.
