i've found myself addicted to pornography. i gave it up for a year, but it got a hold of me again. i don't know what to do. does anybody else have this problem, and is this even the right place to post this.
First off. How old are you? If you're between 12-16 it should be fine. If you're older, you might have a problem on your hands. If you're younger, you shouldn't be posting here.
Porn addiction in and of itself is harmless unless it affects other things you do in your daily life.
Good job guys. Way to be supportive. Best bet: unplug your internet. Set a timer, limit your computer intake. Only use the internet when other people are around, in a public place - amkes it awkard as hell to look at porn that way. Mov eyoru comptuer out of your room or wahtever private place its tucked into.
The actual defintion of "addiction" is that it is effecting your work, play, social activities and occupying most of your thoughts, and that you can't stop the behavior, and even thinking about stopping brings on anxiety. Professsional help IS available for this. Most addictions are not treatable alone, by yourself. If this is effecting your social life (you'd rather look at porn than hang out with friends) if it effects your actual love or sex life (you are avoiding going out with real girls to look at it) your family life (you are rarely present at family functions, meals, family time, and people are starting to wonder where you are) and is making you unable to function properly (you can't get a job, beacuse it may interfer with your addiction and your access to the porn) and you are not happy, then it IS an addiction, and needs to be treated. An other sign of addiction is the need to hide the activiy from others. Healthy activities never need to be hidden. There are people who can help. If you are shy about talking to your parents, simply tell them you are depressed, and only tell the therapist what the problem is. They can't, by law, reveal to your parents what is going on in the sessions. If it doesn't effect other things in your life, it simply isn't an Addiction. That is the definition of "Addiction." An activity which adversely effects the rest of your life and the inability to stop, despite being aware that it is not healthy for you. Just occasionally looking at porn is NOT an "addiction" not being able to stop, and the other things listed above, are. Good luck. There are really more healthy things to do with your time, you have your entire life ahead of you, and real girls are a lot better company than the fake chicks in Porn. Blessings, brother.
Please, when i was 15 i couldnt go more than a day without masturbating. There was no internet back then so even the sears catalog would get me going. Its better than him having sex at that age. Give the kid a break, he's normal.
Of course, masturbation is totally normal. He, however, is expressing a fear or anxiety about porn, not masturbating. If HE thinks it is a problem, it most likely is. I simply suggested what the definition of actual "Addiction" is. Most people who look at porn on occasion, or who masturbate are NOT "addicted" to it. If it interfers with the rest of one's life, it's a problem. Healthy masturbation is........healthy, good for you, it helps one and doesn't cause harm OR anxiety. My guess is if this young man thinks it's a problem, he wouldn't have posted unless he wanted help.
i do it like 1-2 times a day and im 16....but thats because is till havnt been laid basicly haha and i dont want to yet.
Well...I've been there, done that, 5 years ago when I was 11(I grew up at a young age...). I kicked it off in about a month though. Basically, you have to have the personal resolve to quit. It's like a drug. Find a girlfriend, have fun with her, and get used to the idea that sex isn't the only thing in life. Porn is basically a placebo, for something that you shouldn't be doing, unless you're married, anyway....totally useless. If you can get off your ass, get away from your porn, and get on to other stuff, you'll learn to get over it. Find something that you like better than porn.... and do it...
Get your own website and write about subjects you are interested in and link your work to other sites. Porn can dominate your life unless you fight it 24/7.
maybe you feel you're just looking at it too much? ok, do something about it. i see a few good suggestions here. addicted? by definition, that's a problem. lemme tell ya all something...too much of that crap can blur the lines. too much porn can turn you into a detached spectator in your own bed and affect your capacity for intimacy. i'm not makin this up, i've been there. this is the men's issues forum, so let's talk about this like men, ok?
omg what a fuckign nuts in here.... Mastrubating is a healthy way, and is the same while ur having sex or just mastrubating. This is ur reproduction instinct, sperm builds up in 8-16 hoursa fully after you mastrubate. so mastrubating everyday is not a bad thing, Everybody mastrubate, some more or less , average is 4 timesa week. just dont overdue it. penis is a sensetiv organ, give it a rest. do it everyother day. more fun It kills stress, and relaxes body and all chemical processesi nur body. If someones girlfriend , is out of town, or just not able to come. Mastrubating is the way.
Wise Words. Its normal for most teenagers to explore porn at some stage... but if he's writing a thread of concern about his habbits.. then its obviously a negative aspect in his life. Lets help him...? Cool.
