I feel so lonesome.. I don't have many friends, or any at all.. The last time, I had a social life was like in 8th grade.. I don't know where the hell to go around here to meet people that are like me.. I don't want to go to the mall because, I don't want to go alone..There's nobody else to go with. I've been alone a long time.. I've never had a best friend. (i had one that was close,but I look back now and see how mean and evil he treated me,therefore I dont count him) I don't tell people that I don't have friends because it's embarassing, I feel like a big loser or a freak.. And I (although,know this is not true) feel like the only one with this situation in the whole world,or at least the whole country.. I don't desire to be popular or have many many friends..I don't need that. All I would like is just one best friend, someone to do things with and tell secrets to ,someone that's here for me when I feel sad,someone to laugh with,eat ice-cream with,do stupid things together, and have fun with. And maybe a couple other friends to do things with.. (i have a job but, mostly the only people that work there are 30/40 yr. olds that have kids and are married..nobody my age.) This is something that really affects me..This loneliness thing. Because I don't like it, and some people act like the most important thing in life is to have friends..(what a crock) I've heard someone say once, 'everyone has friends..' which I got very pissed off,that is wrong to generalize things and people that way. This is something that I keep deep inside me,I don't tell anybody,unless I am very sure about them,unless I trust them. It's a deep secret of mine. I wish it to go away,and end,so all this sadness can be cut.
OMG, arent there nice people there? Im sure there are and Im sure there is someone who feel as lonely as you are very close to you. why dont you try to make some new friendship. I mean, as depressed as you are - you can find friend but only if you try to be nicer, to talk more and to smile - you will find someone!
i hear gypsychildblues. Trust me you aren't only lonely person around. Lots of people on this site have no friends except the cyber ones we talk to and play with on here. I take it your old enough to work so so atleast 15/16 or older so you could try to make a friend at work.. even if they are older you could take a risk and try. Go head an try girl. The blues suck after to long
I'm lonely these days, but it's my choice. It's how I get my get musical content. It's actually quite liberating at times. There will be better times on the horizon for you. Right now I'm bitter towards people. I always end up getting fucked over in some way.
I know I have been lucky over the years. I have several great freinds, Jeff been buds since junior high school, Arnie since I was 18, John since about 2 years ago. I recenlty in the last few years lost 2, Joe becuase he married and his head goes up his ass everytime, we were friends since 6th grade, this has happend before but this time he really screwed me over so poof, and Ken well he cost me a few grand so I thought it best to sever the ties.
You really don't need all that crap. Me, I've got drinking buddies and that's god enugh for me. So just get soome drinking buddies and that's all you need. They don't give you crap about anything, they help you out when you are too drunk to get home, and they don't care if you forget to invite them somewhere or don't show up at their party. That's alll you really need in terms of other people.
You know what? Shut up. Because I don't care.. I didn't exert my loneliness for people to shove their social ,perfect lives in my face.. So,I really don't want to hear about how 'lucky you are with friends over the years.' Not everyone is like you.. ...Obviously..
. . .And another thing. If I hear or see someone telling me to smile one more time,all hell will break loose.. I don't have to smile if I don't want to,it's that simple. And if people are telling me to;I purposely will do the opposite,because I am highly stubborn and contrary. Darlin', I am a sweet sweet woman. That is not the trouble here.. I also do talk a lot as well.. Not the problem. Making friends is easier said than done. I was homeschooled for high school, so I was out of a social ring.. Now, I don't have friends because I had no connections to be made in a high school. If I were to be in a school I'd have made friends, even just a few. QUOTE=Anastazija]OMG, arent there nice people there? Im sure there are and Im sure there is someone who feel as lonely as you are very close to you. why dont you try to make some new friendship. I mean, as depressed as you are - you can find friend but only if you try to be nicer, to talk more and to smile - you will find someone![/QUOTE]
Darlin', let me just tell you, the blues don't ever suck in my book..And they're all I got, you know?.. P.S. I can't be friends with the people I work with. OMG. I can't wait to leave that job when I get hired somewhere else. They're all old,and with kids mostly.. You can't eat ice-cream,tell secrets, go shopping,hang-out with a 40 year old waitress w/kids and a husband. P.P.S. Nope,you're wrong.Not 16 here. Old enough to vote,and buy porn .
Hey ! Fuck girl... whos problem it is ?? YOURS! who made this hard ? YOU! who fuckign answers in negative shitty way to those who posted here ? YOU.... who EVEN writes in this forum abotu such thing ? YOU!! .. so the whole problem is YOU?? who is stubborn ? YOU!!! you are losing time with everydays, thinking about ur loonliness and stuff. i'd wanted to see ur photo? if u are fat/ chuby/ and ugly no wonder y you have no one... if not... still problem in u... instead of sitting and crying... first make ur self good , especially that you are GIRL. start eating some kind of healthy and do physical activity for some months. if you have at least some kidn of face that can be pretty ( sure everybody does ) then you will see when there will be time when peopel will be starting to talk to you, mostly guys.... exercise also kills stress. You have so much time, that you can make friends with all peopel in ur area.... Just make one step at one time... build ur body, and then u'll say wow. i'm still lonley but look at me i am sexy/in shape. and with that building time. you will be meeting peopel and haveign a chance with each one of them. ....... IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD.
We got torched on this one didn't we people. I like you Vengeful. We just just gotta keep gotta keep puttin out the good vibe (keep on tryin man as best as we can with what we have to work with anyways). This one was just one of those really angry bitter little chicks that was probably molested by a person that was suppose to have loved her... but fucked her instead.
Such a sweet kind woman, sweet as a lemon and as lovable as a porcupine! Well now we are alot more crystal as to your freindship issues. Might want to work on them social skills a tad first, good luck.
Ghost- trotsky owns. so does Socrates. I wish i could find a website, ora book with lots of famous , wise quotes like these...
Well sometimes truth can be harsh..i cross the line the sometimes... but I felt pretty stupid...after she went all biserko angry....i just couldn't believe how she just racked everything everyone was trying to encourage her with....she'll get really lonely and desperate if she doesn't get some frickin help for all that damage she's had done to her....come ALONE one...
You're Not Alone in this Situation... I Lost All my Freinds at 15... Seriusosly...There is No One... It Bothers me Alot of the Times Also... But I Still Go to Places...I Don't need Anyone to Go Shopping or Watch a movie... Last Year I went to France Alone...This Year York... Although Sometimes...I Really Crave Human Companionshiop... Even in my New Course at College...It's in Classes Full of Women with Kids...Husbands...Mortages and Cars... So I Can't Relate to Them... And I Don't seem to Relate to People my Age... I must Still be 15 in my Head... I am Aware this Post is Not Following Any Structure... It is Late...
August 16, 2006 Coming Out Of Hiding Isolation There are times in our lives when withdrawing from our social obligations and taking some time to be alone is necessary to rejuvenate our energy and renew our connection to ourselves. However, there are also times when withdrawal is a red flag, indicating an underlying sense of depression or some other problem. We may not even have consciously decided to isolate ourselves but wake up one day to find that we have been spending most of our time alone. Perhaps it's been a long time since friends who used to call have given up. Without anyone inviting us out, we sink deeper into alienation. The longer our isolation lasts, the harder it becomes to reach out to people. It is as if we have failed to exercise a particular muscle, and now it is so weak we don't know how to use it. Yet, in order to return to a healthy, balanced state of being, that's exactly what we need to do. If you find yourself in this situation, call an understanding friend who will listen to you with compassion, not a defensive friend who may have taken your withdrawal personally. The last thing you need is to be chided; a negative response could intensity your isolation. If you don't have a kind friend you can rely on, call a spiritual counselor or therapist. They may be able to help you determine the underlying cause of your isolation and help you find your way out of it. When you've been in a pattern of secluding yourself, it can begin to seem impossible that you could reenter the world of friendships, conversations, and group activities, but with time, you will. Most people will understand if you take the time to explain that you've fallen out of touch and would like to reconnect. Take your time and be gentle with yourself, starting with one person and building from there. Try to reach out to one new person every week. Before you know it, you will find yourself back in the company of friends.
I feel the same way if that helps at all. I also see this happening to my little brother and it kills me.
