not good on top..WHY?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by strange, Sep 11, 2006.

  1. strange

    strange Member

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    i just started having sex a few months ago and im not ENTIRLY confident with myself in that area or whatever...anyway, my problem is whenever i try being on top (in addition to feeling really awkward) i feel this really painful pressure inside me. its like pushing really hard towards the front from inside my vagina. its unpleasant. now why does this happen, becasue ive heard its way better for the girl when shes on top. am i doing something wrong with the movements or whatever, or what? my boyfriend has a pretty large penis too, could that be the reason? any input is appreciated, thanks :>
     
  2. whereami

    whereami Member

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    Weren't you just complaining about the input?


    Just kidding. Sorry.
     
  3. anthony69

    anthony69 Member

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    does his penis curve? or anything like that? try leaning more towards him or leaning more gainst him
     
  4. Rigamarole

    Rigamarole Senior Member

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    Pretty good.

    (*Larry David voice*)

    Pretty, pretty preetttttty good.
     
  5. campfirejam

    campfirejam Something-Something

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    Ha, did you keep going anyway?
     
  6. sea of grass

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    i completely know that feeling. i think it's something that afflicts petite girls in particular - i'm pretty petite and if i'm with a guy with a larger penis, it happens to me if i'm doing it wrong. and sometimes it depends on the angle. also since his wang is on the big side, and you're smaller and you're sitting at a certain angle, it may be hitting you in the cervix, which isn't exactly how you gain pleasure. try doing a more sideways facing each other position, or just try laying more against him as you ride him instead of sitting completely upright - that tends to help. also, make sure you are well-lubed. in addition to being on top, try doggy style. i find it hits the g-spot at a very nice angle and feels pretty damn good. good luck!
     
  7. DroopySnoopy

    DroopySnoopy The ORIGINAL Dr. Droop

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    Lean forward, if that doesn't work, lean back. If THAT doesn't work, get the fuck off the top and lay down :D
     
  8. DroopySnoopy

    DroopySnoopy The ORIGINAL Dr. Droop

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    I gotta admit, I admire a woman that can handle it up top pretty well. But that doesn't mean I won't feel the same for a woman that cant, either. Every woman is different.
     
  9. Musikero

    Musikero Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Well, I don't have a large penis, just five inches long. But one time my five-foot-tall girlfriend was on top and I tried thrusting up to go deeper into her and she said it hurt. Of course, it could also have been my...ahem...overeagerness since she was still not fully open.
     
  10. eechi

    eechi Member

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    i had the same thing when i first started. I think it has something to do with just not being used to it - ie not being loose enough/relaxed. OR it could have been something to do with the pill coz im sure i didnt have that problem when i switched to condoms...but anyway, its fine for me now, to the point wher ei can go really hard and fast without problems :D
     
  11. Suncatch22

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    I have problems too -- my first time was actually on top, and while of course it hurt like hell I wasn't too bad at it.

    (Being a horseback rider doesn't have any sexual advantages except , I admit, helping me "ride" better.)

    But I have trouble doing it myself -- I'm REALLY good at going along for the ride but I don't like to drive while I'm up there. It's problematic when he tries to move while I try to move, and yes, especially with the larger endowments it HURTS LIKE CRAZY.

    I think it's only natural to tighten a little when you're on top, regardless of how relaxed or ready you are. It's just the way the human body works. And that can be REALLY inconvenient.
     
  12. dances in pajamas

    dances in pajamas strange little girl

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    Never thought it was painful for any girls... I'm actually really tight and I looove being on top. But every girl's different.
     
  13. mrpwonder

    mrpwonder Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    Its not uncommom. I'm very large and have had several women have problems with it and have said its because of my size and how they are shaped. But you can learn to work with it.
     
  14. scarikari

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    Yeah, this does make it awkward when he tries to move when you are on top. It throws off my rhythm just when it gets going. This is the reason I hate being top and I let him ride me instead.
     

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