I had sex with my best guy friend of 15 years awhile back. It was a really drunken, awkward experience, needless to say the sex was horrible. He was always hitting on me that year. I knew he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend too. People always joked we would marry because we were like soulmates as friends Anyways, we don't talk anymore. He moved out of state and theres no contact what so ever. I still think about him. I was just wondering what he probably feels? Has anyone else done this? Why do you think he really wanted to do that?
Interesting that you are thinking about him. but there are two scenarios i see: 1 he had sex with you drunk, he wanted more sex from you hence the hitting on, in this instance it could of been because you were more attractive then his girlfreind or he wasn't getting any from her 2 he could of really liked you, the liquer helped him to do his emotions that he keep closed for fear of ruining your freind ship. Once he sleep with you, he knew the cat was out of the bag and wanted to build a realtionship, he might of had a girffriend becasue you had a boyfreind and was lonely, even though all he ever wanted was you when he was hitting on you woud you say it was more romantic? or shallow and physical? of course he might of just been bad at flirting romanticly you should find his number if he lives near by eat lunch, or go to a cafe, if he lives far away either see him if you really like him, or simply call him. espically if your available if i was you i think closure would be nice, i maybe a year ago talked to a junior high sweet heart, it was very rewarding, of course she was a caring, girl, with who i've always been close so i knew that their was no hollow, or hard feelings to ending the past, to create a future that lasts
Seems to me that he may be running from something that you don't know about. I'm sure he remembers the night you shared with him if that's what your asking. Why, do you want to see him again?
Thanks for your responses, I do think about him a lot. I hope to see him again and wish that Things wouldn't have ended like that. A lot of irony and karma occurred in our 20 year friendship. I feel he has created a mold for the man the I will marry someday.
Or, you could just find this guy, tell him how you feel, and live happy. I'm sure his sex has improved.
Love is beyond sex! - friendship and love is more powerful than sex. The creation of "that mold" means that there is a lot of love!!! - explain that to him ..personally and follow your feelings.
The great thing about the internet is that you can usually find anybody. Have you thought of contacting him? There is always a way to find someone, but you have to consider if you really want to contact him, and if you are willing to hear his response which may or may not be positive. I wish you luck, as I have been there myself.
I really wish I could contact him. I could find the way to do that if I really wanted to, but my ego or fear of rejection gets in the way. I really do long to see him as I feel we were soul mates, especially how well we understood each other and our friendship. I know we will meet again someday and I can wait for now. I heard he is being very successful in his job and I only wish the best for him because he is great. I only hope that he thinks about me too.
Don't wait too long... It sounds like you two were probably meant for one another. Good luck to you and let us know if you here from him!
