Going without make up

As a woman who wears make up daily and has so for many years, the thought of stepping outside the house and going without it terrifies me (yes pathetic I know). I wear a full face of make up as I like the way it makes me look. However a recent dreadfull pimple breakout I had due to a reaction to a CRAP new make up (*cough* L'Oreal Infallible *cough*) meant foundation of any kind just seemed to make the pimples worse and so for the past few days I have been going bare faced (and my skin at the moment is looking quite bad).
The reaction people are having to be has shocked and quite frankly disgusted me. I really had forgotten how hung up people are on looks. No one has smiled at me, I dropped my bottle of water and it rolled next to someone. When I picked it up the guy took one look at me then just rolled his eyes and walked off. I havnt even got friendly looks from anyone! God no wonder people are preassured to buy beauty products all the time! If something as small as acne can make people change their reactions to me god forbid something worse could happen! It was idiotic.
Now I am not an UGLY person without make up. My point is that if something as small as some pimples can change the way people can behave around me, then this world is a pretty disgusting place.
Its an interesting thing to try ladies, if you wear make up. Try going without it and note a/ how you feel without it (I felt really unattractive which is really sad) and b/ how other people react to you when you are bare faced.
It made me realise how important my boy and friends are. They like me for me and dont care wether or not I wear make up, they are the main thing.

 

A person you've never met before wouldn't have known what you look like WITH make-up on, so they have nothing to 'compare' you by.
Perhaps your paranoia about not wearing make-up is making you think that guy rolled his eyes at you.
If you're an overweight person you automatically think that people outside are laughing at you when they could be laughing at something completely innocent.
Personally, it's the opposite for me. I never wear make-up, but if there's some occasion that I feel like dressing up for, wearing make-up makes me feel like I look like a trollop!

Like you said, you have friends and your bloke who love for who you are. Why give a flying f*** what the rest of the world thinks?

 

I agree. You're probably just paranoid, because you already feel uncomfortable without it. I stopped wearing make up years ago and I get friendly faces and compliments on my looks all the time.

I also get people who don't pay attention to me in public, give me ugly faces, and people who are rude. It's just different people act differently to different things, sometimes people are having a bad day and they don't feel like being friendly or being bothered in public. And 9x out of 10, the ugly faces are rolling eyes aren't at you, you just happen to be there at the time. I've done it myself.

 

Constant makeup wearing does make your face look worse when you don't have it on. Women who do not wear makeup regularly usually have better complection and don't get the unhealthy skin and red splotchy look that makeup wearers have when they go without. It's one of those things that the use of it requires more use of it until you get stuck in a viscious cycle.


but I agree with the others, too. It's probably how you feel about yourself that is at issue, and not how you look. People don't treat me any differently when I have makeup on, which is very rarely. I tried an experiment when I was in college and selling jewelry for commission. I wanted to see if makeup or clothes had any impact on how many sales I made. I found that makeup made no difference whatsoever, but wearing casual clothing instead of nice professional dresses had a drastic impact on my sales performance. And this is down South, where very few women over the age of 12 ever venture into the light of day without full war paint.

Maybe the looks you are getting from people is a reflection of the expression you are wearing on your own face. Most people don't really care if a woman is beautiful or not, but they do pick up on it when a woman feels ugly.

 

i hate how people are so obsessed with appearance now. i usually only wear make-up on weekends well real make-up, and just mascara, lipgloss and maybe a dot of concealer on a pimple during the week. but i noticed on the weekends i get more of a reaction :\

 

I agree with Lazuli and Hannah. People honestly don't pay that much attention. And most people don't bother wasting what little attention they DO have on insulting someone who they don't like for one idiotic reason or another. Are you accustomed to everyone turning and bowing at your feet as you pass? You are normally (with makeup) confident in the way you look, and that makes the difference.

Hell, I personally am a big girl (which loses me points for most of society) and am by no means what most people would call "pretty" or "attractive". I'm interesting looking, but not pretty. I've never been into makeup at all. Worn it less than a dozen times when I was about 13. And on the occasions when some strange person notices me on the street or something, it's never to insult me or roll eyes at me, but often to compliment my hair or my eyes, many times I've actually been stopped by strangers and complimented on the fact that I DON'T where makeup.

And BTW, plenty of men do prefer no makeup. My bf thinks it's gross. He works in a fabric store, and talks all the time about the "attractive" women who come in, almost always saying that they wore no makeup. In the town we used to live there was a large Russian Orthadox community, and he had the hots for almost every one of those women, if only for the fact that they wore no makeup and wore modest (but not unfeminine) clothing...
/rant

 

Given the choice of a natural v. a painted face
I'll go w/natural except for a few rare instances

and those instances normally don't involve being in public.


Same's true for all that astronomically priced
nose irritating stinky crap...

 

I stopped wearing makeup years ago and never turned back. Of course, I never wore anything more than eye makeup and lip stick-never foundation. I never really had a skin problem, no pimples except right before AF, no blotchiness etc. I just realized on day that I was wasting my time and $$ with stuff that doesn't really do anything for me besides annoy me. I don't care what people think about the way I look and I think that is what makes the difference. People notice how you carry yourself more than what you have or don't have on your face...

 

i actually get a better reaction now that I don't really wear it. I'll put some on if I'm having a piticularly "bad face day," where everything just seems to look bad. And I do like mascarra because it makes my eyes pop a little more. But yeah, for the most part, I have always had people tell me, no makeup was better. Especially when I was in school, and would cake it on with foundation and coverup that was so dark for my skin (i'm beyond pale), that it looked like I had a mask on, deep purple lipstick, dark eyeshadow, and yeah........it was bad. But even when I let up on the amount I was wearing and wore better colors suited to my tone, people still said that i looked better natural. Dh agrees, too. He HATES makeup. And he's one of those guys who you would usually see dating one of those fake and bake girls.
I do have to agree with everyone else here, though, about the whole, "if you feel the part, you're going to look the part," thing. It's really true. I've always had really shitty confidence and people picked up on that. Once I started to act happier and not really care about what I looked like, I found tons more people were talking to me. Confidence is a wonderful thing. That guy who didn't offer to help you pick up your water bottle was probably just an ass. He most likely would have done the same thing if you had your makeup on. But of course, you were feeling insecure (even if it was just subconsious) and you figured that he was doing it because you weren't wearing any makeup. People today are just jerks. I've encountered lots. There are nice people, too, but I've had more people let the door slam on my stroller than offer to keep it open, for example. Hell, one guy actually PULLED the door shut at a convienience store while I was trying to manouver the stroller through the door. I always wonder if it's because I'm a young mom, but then i just think to myself, even if that is the case, those people are jerks.

 

I have not worn make-up in almost a year (same with shaving and plucking my eyebrows) and I have to say, it's liberating to care more about what I DO as opposed to what I LOOK LIKE!

 

i can actually say that I don't know how to put makeup on. i never cared about it in this life. i gave up on shaving too. can't stand the feeling. I get comments on my looks a lot. makeup is not needed.

 

Its a rare daytaht I leave the house withoutmakeup, usually just if Im running to the corner grocery or not. Simply because I feel beteter with mascara on than without, withmyhair brushed htna not. I dont do foundation thoug h(ive worn it once my whole life, for my cousins wedding), my skin is usually nice and clear and i dont wanna muck it up (besides my freckles are cute)

 

I think your concern for your looks is what's making you think everyone is looking at you like your acne is some sort of leprocy. I can honestly say that I have received more compliments when I'm not wearing makeup. I was called beautiful and was absolutely stunned. If I do wear makeup, it's beacuse I want to. I like it. It's fun. I rarely worry about my face, except I do take care of my acne because I hate it.

You shouldn't feel so self-conscious while going bare-faced. Instead of concealer, I suggest tinted moisturizer. Hard Candy makes the best stuff. It'll help your skin too; no mass clogging of the pores like foundation.

Remember: You're beautiful. You just have to see yourself that way.

 

yeah your probably right actually. I'm so concious of how bad my skin is that I think everyone is else is too.

 

Let's see... *g*

 

I wear mascara and eye liner. That's about it. I have way sensitive skin and foundation....even just the tinted moisturizers....make my face feel kinda raw and I'm in pain.
I'm not ashamed of what I look like. And, yes, I have freckles and they're cute.

 

There have been studies that show that the more attractive person is treated better than the less attractive, that the slimmer person is treated better than the overweight person, etc. People assume that the slimmer or more attractive person is more intelligent. More attractive, slimmer people get more raises and promotions.
It's a sad, sad society we live in. I try to make the effort personally to speak to or be kind to the person who looks different, and they are generally a whole lot more interesting that the beauty queens.

I am so thankful for finally arriving at the place in my life where I will dress as I like and leave the house without make up and not care what people think. Yesterday my daughter called me to pick her up. I had no make up on, an old T shirt on inside out, and some old faded shorts. I went and picked her up just like that. A few years ago I would have put on a nice shirt, jeans or pants to hide my tattoos, and at least a little powder.
Now I feel so FREE!!!!

 

I feel like I am who I am. I dont believe what I look like make a difference in who I am and where I stand in the world, I believe is I give a good vibe then I get good vibes. I think of " money see money do" I have to show a good example if I want other to follow me. I dont wear make up im happy with showing the world my natural beauty. I give my peace,and I give my love.

 

Now, that I'm not selling make up for a living (I used to be a cosmetics buyer for a large drug store) I don't wear it as much as I used to. I used to have to come to work all painted up every day. If I didn't people really were nasty to me. I was not imagining it. They would say you don't look well, or things of that nature. And when I started to wear make up they would all be smiling and cheerful towards me and say how wonderful I looked with make up on. Then again you have to take in to consideration, we were in the business to sell the crap so they were all biased.

Right now I have no job. I usually get up and put on my work out clothes, go to the gym, come home and maybe do some house work, and then I get on the computer and apply for jobs. I don't put any make up on. Hell I don't even get a shower until about 12 am. So when the weekend comes, or a special event or I have an interview I actually enjoy putting make up on. I have nice skin because I drink only water and milk and I sweat a ton, so I don't need a lot of make up. I just actually have fun putting it on. LOL. I'm weird, I just like primping.

Anyway, I had a bad reaction to Loreal before too. It used to be what I swore by, but I think they changed some things in their formulas. Now I only use Almay. I'm not rich so I can't get the fancy department store make up. But I hear that is even better for your skin. But I do believe that Lacome or one of those actually owns Loreal, so check it out first before you purchase.

 

there are days i go out without it and don't even think about it,
i guess i wear some most days though... i always take about 5min and then don;t think about it the rest of the day