oh don't you love double standards

So when I turned 21 (legal drinking age) the hubby was still 20 and I was pregnant. No big deal, wasn't going to drink anyway. Then, after I had the baby I had numerous chances to go out with friends to the bar. Guess who threw a fit? Yup, you guessed it... the husband. Anyway, his agrument was that it wasn't fair to go without him since he wasn't able and he wanted me to wait for him, blah blah blah. I spent numerous nights home and begging my friends to come over rather than out. Shouldn't have fallen for it. Guess who turns 21 today and made plans to go out drinking? Thats right... when I asked him who was watching the kids he goes... uh oh yea... um you have to stay home. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
NOPE
not happening asswipe

anyway, I love when people try to start double standards. I guess if he goes out tonight I'm not going to feel obligated to wait to do things or do them with just him. I kindly pointed out he has set a double standard today and reminded him of what he said to me so we'll see what happens.

 

tsk tsk tsk! When are you coming to drink with me? Im 21 now, in case you didnt notice

 

yeah don't let him get away with that shit.... that sucks, though. when charles was living here and he lost his IDs i stayed home a lot with him, but he didn't have a problem with me going out without him... he would also take off to the neighbors unannounced to go get stoned too... (usually he would invite me but sometimes he would forget about me... yes we talked about it because i got pissed) so i think i had a right to take off to the club a couple times without him. anyway! i hope he doesn't go and leave you there with the kids, but if he does, make plans asap to go out without him and leave him home with the kids.

 

Hell yeah! I can't even get into all of the things I could say about this, but yeah, if he goes out, make sure you have your night out too.

He didn't ask you if you could stay home and watch the kids, do the same to him!

 

Why does he want to go out? I would rather spend some time with my wife. Obviously not ALWAYS but why is he so desperate to get out the house?

 

that is so mean..I would not let him do that to you... double standerds are retarted.. lol haha... you shouldbe able to go out and do stuff!

 

That is crap. If you live by the rules so should he. Why not find a babysitter for the night and go out to enjoy his birthday together.

 

Find a babysitter behind his back...and when he leaves...magically show up later in the evening. Why wouldn't he want you to come with him? Why wouldn't he find a babysitter himself and say "Hey, babe, wanna go out with all my friends with me for my b-day. I found a sitter and everything."

Sounds like he's being childish about this whole thing. And when he pukes because he drank too much, make fun of him and make him feel like shit. LOL I don't know...I think it's a good idea

 

I don't know...

 

maybe he's going to a strip club and doesn't want you to find out...

i'm sorry. it's hard not to think the worse sometimes. but yea, i'd get pissed if i wasn't invited to hang out with my boyfriend on his birthday.

 

he didn't go btw

 

I think it sucks. Why make fun of the father of your baby? Why make him sorry he came home?


Get a babysitter (with his knowlege) and go celebrate his birthday. Earlier, when he was 20, he wasn't trying to keep you away from fun, he just wanted to be with you.


Seriously, interpreting things so that your baby's father is "wrong" will not lead to a good situation. Go out of your way to think well of him.

No, don't let him set up double standards where you are carrying the whole load. But equality and fairness can be carried to extreems. A sustainable situation is more important (to your child) than a fair one.

 

see, this is why I didn't get mad about the situation. I was a little pissed off while venting but I know he means well. We discuss everything. We have our alone days and we do have our own friends (and mutual) as well. We respect each others boundries and I know what he does. He got excited because a friend invited him out. We had decided that the bar was not a place for either of us to go alone when I was 21 and he was not. Bars are a place to meet friends, its for social drinking and hanging out. If we meet friends we want to do that together. Theres no secrecy and sneaking off to strips clubs. He told me, then we discussed it when he got home from work and decided to stay in rather than have a babysitter since we know no one who will do anything in such short notice. Sucks but that is life, we're adults and parents. We had a fun night anyway. Besides, we didn't want to pay for a taxi and a sitter.

 

Eryn, we would have watched your kids!!!!!! I promise, call us sometime, we dont mind and we wouldn't dream of charging you money! I think your children are wonderful

 

aw we miss ya guys... want to come to a bday party we r throwing sat? bring the baby... i have my hands full but ill message u the details l8er when riley naps

 

double standards were much bigger in the 60s when you could not drink legally at 18 or vote but old enough to get blown to pieces in vietnam . today you still can get blown to pieces in Iraq but not old enough to drink . the only dirfence was in the 60s it was much esier for underage to buy liqour and cigarrets . if you knew the stoure owner long enough you could buy anything in those days. "not any more" with few rare exceptions here and there.

 

Saturday, like tomorrow? I should be around at night time, Im going to some Octoberfest tomorrow in the daytime, but if you guys have it tomorrow I could come back early

 

Put an open pint under the seat, call 911 from a pay phone and report a DUI as he leaves the house! HAPPY 21st BDAY!