how can I relax about my sexuality. I'm bi curious and my husband would like me to experience being with another woman (he's had threesomes before) but its not me being with another women its him, I love him so much and i can't bare the thought of him being with another women, I do get jealous and he knows this, (i even hate it when he talks to women when I'm not around). I don't know what to do, i want to fulfil my fantasies and bring some excitment in to our marriage but i'm so scared of it ruining our marriage or he leaves me. advise anyone please xxxxx
You're obviously in a committed relationship with your husband. If you can't relax about the idea of bringing another person into the bedroom, then you probably shouldn't. Many people are turned on by the thought of acting on such fantasies, but the actual reality leaves them cold. The fact is, if you bring another woman home for sex, she'll be touching, sucking and fucking your husband. Sure, the idea may seem sexy at first, but some folks just can't handle the jealousy and awkwardness. If you're uncomfortable, then put on the brakes. It's not like you have to, and it's not like you have to right now. You could wait a little while until you're more comfortable with the whole situation before you jump into anything that could be potentially damaging to your sex life and married life.
I agree with what bella said, but i'd like to add that you don't have to jump right in with fucking and sucking, etc... in my experience it's better to start off slow... have the other girl watch you two do stuff.... maybe do some touching with her, but no kissing... i mean you can start off REALLY slow. you can bring up to your husband that you get to play with the other girl but he doesn't... he can be there and watch and play with you but the other girl is off limits to him (at least at first) and maybe he's never allowed to fuck her. you just have to be in agreement with your husband as to how far you want to take things but don't be afraid of boundaries. bringing someone else into the bedroom does not = letting your husband do whatever he wants to her. (unless that's what you want to do of course) i also want to clarify that you don't have to take it slow with just one girl... building a relationship with another person could be good, or bad depending on how your jealousy works, so you can do your first experience with one girl and all you do is touch her and you and your husband perform oral on each other... the next time you invite another girl and you and your husband have sex in front of her and you kiss her... etc etc... i hope this all makes sense... and hopefully you can come to a conclusion about what you want to do and what you feel comfortable doing. good luck
thanks alot, have you done it with a women? i'm more jealous coz im not exactly model material but im not huge but i don't know what to look for in a women so i dont feel insecure with myself and think my husband is going to run of with her xx
You need to trust your hubby and trust that he won't run off with your plaything before you start. I've had many, many experiences with threesomes (and moresomes) and I've often found it's easier to let loose with people you aren't in a committed relationship with. That way, there's no (or less) danger of ruining an important relationship. First off, you need to trust your husband, that he won't leave you. You say you get jealous just knowing he's talking to other girls, that's gonna make it really difficult for you, hun. No offence, but I don't think you're ready yet.
How about having a little private girl on girl action. Let your husband watch...if you both are comfortable with that.
If its just for him...dont do it. Even though you love him..you should never do something you really feel is wrong for you !!!!
Huh? Holding him back? Look, I'm sure he loves you don't worry about holding him back. You are the one to decide if you are comfortable with it.
I don't mean to be trouble here. But I think there is more to your marriage than you're willing to divulge on this thread, or even to yourself. If you feel like you're holding him back, there is something wrong already. And another girl isn't going to fix it.
I went with my gut and thought about it, i trust my husband and we went for it, I feel fine and really enjoyed myself. it was hot, thanks for all your advise, if im in another dilema i know where to turn 2 xxx
well after a couple of glasses of wine, just to relax, was not expecting it to happen with a friend of ours. i was sitting with her on the sofa talking to her about sex (hubby had just popped to the toilet) told her what i was feeling and she just smiled and kissed me. (she told me afterwards she had done it b4, which i did not know) I was bit wary but thought wot the hell its now or never, so i kissed her back, by this time muy hubby had returned, he just sat there and watched letting me take my time. we spent a good 15mins just kissing, then i started to touch her breasts, i removed her top, this is when hubby joined in i was kissing her breasts whilst my hubby was kissin her, then she started kissing me and un doing my jeans. b4 i new it her head was in between my legs, i must have been so horny coz i came so quick, (but this didnt stop me wanting more, i was def more relaxed by now) so i resipicated, laid her on her back, spread her legs and started licking her clit to be continued........... Are you wanting more?????
