I was just wondering if anybody out there besides me, believes in soul mates, and If you think that a person can have more than one soul mate? The reason I ask is that I believe that my spouse and lover of 30 years is my soulmate. And I also believe that my soul loves another woman too.
maybe we find someone so perfect for us out of luck? And any relationship takes more than love. It takes commitment, understanding, and working through each other's ego's and problems to work. Your not magically pre-canned for someone but still maybe there is someone your destined to break through with... but it still takes work. Some people may believe in Poly whatever and they may be right... for themselves. But I'm monogomous and prefer it and love it that way. But I would not push that on others who would love to express their lives differently. Are both women okay with it? If not you stand to lose them both
I haven't seen my friend for about 12 years, there was never anything sexual between us. I spoke to her on the phone earlier in the week and she said she would call me back and we could get together this weekend. My mate has met her and knows that we are friends, she even sees her occasionally in her workplace. She approves of our friendship but if it went beyond that I know she would react badly. I would really like it if both women could be friends too.My ultimate dream scenerio would be a menage a trois with them both.
Dear Kalaloch, Here is my 2 cents: You say your soul loves this other woman, I believe in soul mates and of course I believe in love.. But what do you mean your soul loves her? its you. Your heart and mind all your thoughts and feelings so im just saying this because why make a complicated situation harder by putting the feeling off onto an abstract like your soul. Also: is it really worth it? what is your life and relationship like now? are you willing to throw that away on a scenario that might leave you completely alone? it could be a real disaster for you. Who knows it could be your dream come true as well, but are you really willing to stake the whole balance of your live against the chance of having a manage a trois?
i have a soul mate. it truly is the best feeling in the world. although, for me it wasn't anything right off the bat. it took about a month to just know. and i suppose your soul could work with 2 people, but before blindly beleiving that, take a close look at each realationship, and see if they truly are the same.
I don't really believe in soul-mates. I know someone who believes in soul-mate friendship though. See I go with the power of the universe. I think everything has to do with the universe and the stars and the planets, karma and all that stuff. There's too many divorces these days for me to ever believe in soul-mates. I think it's just a real strong love for somebody, and one would like to believe that the other is there soulmate. I say believe in what you want to, if you think that your current woman is your soul-mate, then she is. The other woman may just be a person that you like a lot or possibly somebody you see as a soul-mate if you weren't with your current soul-mate. Love is a battlefield.
Labeling someone as a "soul mate" doesn't change the relationship. I've seen some couples who seem to have found the right one first time and they are ecstatically happy from day one, never looking back. I'm not a big believer in predestination. On the other hand, I think that it is possible for a person to be the "perfect mate" for more than one individual. There are too many factors to try to stuff relationships into absolute catagories... "Just Friends" here, "Soul Mates" there, "Good for a Transition" in the next spot. I hate labeling a relationship because it creates a set of perceived rules that the couple then have to try to fulfill. People are people, not computer printouts. Absolutes may exist, but relationships can be destroyed trying to live up to absurdly high expectations. Still, I'm never going to rule out the possibility, because that makes the world a little sadder place, and we need what happiness we can believe in.
I believe that we are capable of loving more than just one person....whether that would mean that one would be a soulmate and the other would be a lover, mayhaps , would be up to the person .
hm, i have a different take on soulmates. i think that we have soul groups or soul families. they're groups of people that we incarnate with and they dont necessarily have to be a mate/partner/lover, they can be a close friend or a son or a daughter or whatever. soul mates arent sexual, they're spiritual. i ran across the idea of soulmate groups in a video about edgar cayce (and keep meaning to read some of his stuff.) another interesting concept is karma within soulmate groups. sometimes we have karma to work off from previous experiences within our soul group. when we're finished repaying a karmic debt with one of our soulmates, sometimes the relationship with that person finishes and we're free to go on to deal with karma with someone else in our soulgroup....
I believe that soul connections come from two people choosing to connect on that level. It takes time, work, understanding, commitment, and love to get to know somebody on that deep of a level. It isn't pre-determined, it's created because people wish to know each other that deeply. And I think it's even more beautiful that people can become soul mates by choice rather than by fate.
My best friend is my soul mate. Not romantically, but we are. We saved each other. We met in grade 10, and we both hated life and ourselves. We just connected. And then I was happy with life, and so was she. We can talk about anything, and she just knows. Even the things I don't say she knows. One night on shrooms, we sat and talked for 2 hours about us. And it all made sense, we are the essence. We are the ones who created our group, the PHC, we started the Invisible Man. I don't even know how to explain it. We are moving out west together in July, and then going from there. She is what gets me through everyday.
I'm with Nimh, I think our souls tend to reincarnate in such a way that groups or families tend to re-connect with one another, and not always in the same way. I was lucky enough to find my soul mate, but her and I both believe we were together before, and maybe not as man and wife, but as partners, or brothers. She's a very beautiful lady, and we have been happily married for 23 yrs, but there is steel inside her, she is one of the strongest people I have ever met, and a warrior at heart. Not that we fight, because we rarely even argue, but if I had to be in a battle, I would definitely want her beside me all the way. I believe people CAN love more than one person, and love them both equally much, and mean no harm to either. However, it rarely turns out that neither one is harmed, so I am glad I haven't fallen in love with anyone else, because I would never want to hurt my soul mate. Love happens, and you really have not much control over who you love. If you are happy in your 30 yr marriage, just stay friends with the other lady, and do yourself the favor, because if the wife has been beside you for 30 years, she will likely be holding your hand as you die later on, and I truly think you would want that. If you play your cards right, your "friend" just might be there holding your other hand, and you will have hurt nobody. BTW, I am just a little ways away from you, so howdy neighbor! Peace....