Why do girls like guys with issues?

There are stranger things I had in my mouth.

 

Bird is talking about whiny guys or guys who play on the sympathy of girls.
I'm talking about guys who are beautiful to look at, but deep down do not feel they are. I'm talking about men who have, at some point, felt as though they were not accepted by others because they faiIed to live up to the standards that society set.
If a guy does his own thing, makes his own rules, and is his own person, I really respect that. Someone who doesn't do what is expected of him, because he has his own desire to do something different, is incredibly sexy.
The majority of men in the world play on the sympathies of women.
It's quite common.
They use animals, children, etc to get close to the female so they can get what it is they are after.
It is for this reason, that I prefer men who have their own set of issues inside. Guys like that, at times, will relate to you better and are maybe less likely to try and take advantage of you, because they know how it feels.
Besides, most men with "egos" are the very ones I'm talking about.
Not guys like insanejester, he's just a douche.
Guys with egos are guys who don't like themselves, which is exactly why they feel the need to pretend they do. Get it?

 

I don't understand.

 

Droop, it's a bit like Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy.
When you're thirty, it will make perfect sense to you.

 

you know, i've always absolutely melted for the trouble maker who never meant any harm, was just trying to keep himself or herself occupied. the dennis the menace sorts. out having a good time, raising hell, but never trying to hurt someone, just lively. that's my kinda person. but that's not 'issues.' that's just being too alive for other people to try to control you, and it pisses them off.

 

I think bird and I were talking about different issues.
I think he is thinking in terms of men who are whiny and cry about everything. I was talking about men who have all these wonderful things about themselves that they fail to see. The brilliant minds that don't consider themselves brilliant. Maybe the guy who doesn't always get the girls. The outcast who doesn't fall under the Brad Pitt category.
Or, perhaps the guys who do get the girls, but are still miserable because the girls they get are all shallow and phony.
Some of them keep up a front like they're confident and then you see them at some bar drinking their troubles away because they're lonely and miserable. I can't stand arrogant bastards. I'm talking about the men who feel that society expects them to pretend everything is fine and that they like themselves. You know, guys who have all this money but don't really want it. Or, guys who other people just admire and think they have everything, but they have their own misery because they can't find anyone who relates to them and just likes them for them.
I don't know. I believe I am thinking just too much now.

 

He was the early bird who thought that was his worm.

 

thats a good point.. i was thinking the same thing.

 

I can't stand guys with issues. Get off your mom's tit before you try to talk to me.

 

It also sucks if you have plenty of it, it cant buy true love or happieness and it instills greed in alot of people. Money doesn't really solve mankinds real issues, that is the real problems facing us.:sunglasse

 

Kc, that is exactly the way I was alot, especially at school. Oh those damn kids and teachers with no sense of humor. I have never meant any harm in my joking around though.

 

i was the opposite. i was always very good. for real. i was quiet, respectful, compassionate and thoroughly despised. i envied those who were despised and still having a good time.

 

I tore the school apart and turned it upside down, I remember being sent too the principals office, I would march in there like i owned the universe, swing my legs up on the desk and say "I demand my walking papers".

I remember a time too when me and another girl in 5th grade got couught putting buble gum on the guym bleachers. A teacher took us in the hall and said you are both on step two, I gave the teacher a smirk and in a smart ass voice like hanibal smith from the a-team would say, I said Really,,, Im delighted. Whats step three!

I was marched right down to the principles office and again feet up on the desk, and in a tone like hanibal would use i would say,, I demand my walking papers.

See the thing about me is that in school I actually enjoyed getting into trouble, I mean I would even skip school and stand in front of a classroom window just for the pleasure of getting caught.

Did I get in trouble at home when I got suspended, Plenty! but the problem was when i was home i would drive my mother so crazzy she would send me outside too play, guess where i went, you guessed it. Right back down too the school to anoy the hell out of teachers, I mean i had teachers going into the principals office telling the principal they didn't want me in there class anymore.

Now of course im grown up, was i right for what i did in school, Hell no! The problem was in school no amout of punishment weather it be real good spankings or other things did any good. I had a very strong attitude. It was that i would do anything I wanted regardless of what punishment i got, nobody was my boss.

 

So what's the bottom line?

In the meanwhile same q except sexes reversed...

 

i think for me its hugely a motherly instinct thing, "i want to make it all better" type thing...
but it also has to do with like skid was saying, guys with issues (simular issues with myself) tend to be easier for me to get along with cause there needs to be a balance in a relationship
if one person has issues and the other person doesn't, it just seems to me that one person is always being taken advantage of, however if there is an equal amount of issues it all works itself out
i think most people just need to get a sense of humor and not take things so seriously

 

Agree!!!

I think that it works both ways. People want someone that can relate to. No relationship is healthy when one person believes they are superior/inferior to the other. The happy relationship evolves equality.