Ok so a few nights ago, i went to sleep at about 12:30 AM. I had a very vivid dream, I was walking through my grandmothers house past my grandpas chair that he always sat in (he died 3 years ago), and he was just sitting there. He turned his head and said goodbye. I was freaked out so i turned the corner and walked up the stairs. He was instantly right in my face, and burst in to flames and dissapeared. I woke up the next morning a bit freaked out, so I told my dad my dream. He said, "You know today was the day your grandfather died 3 years ago". I was shocked. Anyone have any idea on what this means?
My first guess is that you feel like you didn't have the chance to say goodbye to your grandfather before he died, and this was a way to do that. I don't understand the bursting into flames part. It's an odd coincidence that you had the dream on the anniversary of his death, but it suggests that you have some lingering feelings or concerns.
about having the dream on his aniversary: it could be possible that you could unconciously remember the date of his aniversary but conciously could'nt. which made it possible for the dream to be on that day. that, or it was just a coincidence.
perhapse the bursting into flames bit is the phoenix rebirth concept. and some part of you appearantly wishes you'd had/allowed yourself, more contact with him. or a stron feeling, rightly or wrongly, that he might have wished that. it seems almost like he's saying there's something he hadn't finished telling you. that he was a little bit frustrated by not having been able to. well we live in the world we do, and because of the values we are surrounded by, that 's probably true to some degree of all of us. =^^= .../\...
Well, I agree with SageDreamer that you probably feel that you didn't say goodbye to him the way you should. About the flames - maybe thats just him showing you that he is gone, that you have to let him go? He bursts into flames after saying goodbye - maybe thats just to show you that it's final, that you have to accept that fact? After all, flames are sort of "erasing" the past, "cleaning up" and preparing to go on.. Anyway, usually we ourselves are the best judges about what a dream means to us - nobody knows about you and your grandfather as you do - dreams like this show us that we have some sort of "unfinished" business to resolve - just think it ove - I'm sure you'll find the answer yourself.
