Please forgive me if this has already been discussed, but I'm new to this forum. I just wanted to know if there was anyone who KNOWS that they are gay but, for some reason, feels completely and oddly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Of course, I'm speaking of subjective experience here. I KNOW I'm gay and the only thing I'm looking for is a man to complete my life. But, for some peculiarly odd reason, I feel deeply attracted to a female in a way I've never been attracted to any other woman before. Does anyone else have a similar experience? I know that nobody is 100% gay or straight, but this one really baffles me! Please let me know what you all think!
Hmm... *Brain turns really heavy from thinking*. I respect you're opinion and I think the vast majority, of people are neither way 100%, but I still am open to possiblities of people like that. Still I do think being 100% gay or EVEN straight, much to the 'fear' of a lot of people, is nowhere near as common as many people, oh so desperately want to believe. Maybe it's just her personnality?... Or maybe she has some traits, you usually consider attractive on males?
I don't know. Perhaps I am so desperate that I feel the need to connect with females to satisfy some sort of sexual frustration??? God, please help me!!
Quit stressing over it. My bestfriend (who is gay) has what she calls "boy crushes" all the time. I have "girl crushes"... I don't think its a big deal. Now, if you think that you have manifested this crush for a female simply out of sexual frustration due to a dry spell or lack of the type of sexual action you normally go for, then yes... maybe the crush isn't in anyones best interest. Take a step back and try and look at it objectively. As Nair said, what is it about this girl that you are finding attractive, because I doubt its her vagina.
Maybe females are the only ones available, right now? Or it's easier finding females who are attracted to you? Maybe you feel the need to be in a short term relationship with a female just once, but spend the rest of you're life with a male?
theres all different ways of being attracted to people, and its not all sexual, I am very attracted to females I just don't want to sleep with them S
You can definitely be gay and be attracted to some one of the opposite sex and vice versa. My first girlfriend is totally straight and I'm the only girl she's ever been attracted to so I think it can go the other way. Feelings for other people happen regardless of sex. It's really the person's soul that you become attacted to.
i have a gay friend who has discussed this with me coz im bi so i go for both anyway, but he saw a woman once and found her attractive and since then hes been open to that concept. sexuality isnt black and white, though we sometimes try to make it that way through categorisations. i go by the rule i fancy people. gender isnt always a big deal if you connect with somebody. ive fancied straight and gay women, straight and gay men, and transgendered both ways. its the person you like. dont worry about it and dont stick yourself in a closed box. be open to what life throws your way.
I can agree with that even if I don't believe in souls I don't think. Sex is a big part in most people's relationship and theres no doubt that you will always prefer the same sex sexually but not only that maybe be exclusively attracted to them and fall in love with them mostly. There is always a small chance there will be that one person of the opposite sex you'd really love and could over look the fact that you don't have a big urge to have sex with them.
You see I label myself as gay for a reason though, because people NEED to label themselves as having same sex attraction for us to even have the ability to fall in love with whom ever we want. Once we have that ability than we won't need to label ourselves as exclusively attracted to one type of sex, until then this is my way of fighting for human rights. (and honestly im attracted to guys almost exclusively if not totally im just saying id be open to a girl if there is a special one out there that i could really love)
Thank you all for your thoughtful input! This forum is great! Aside from that, though, the general consensus that I seem to be getting is that it's society that's wrapped people into these "labels" of sexuality, not ourselves. If we were allowed to free ourselves from "expectations" and other external pressures, we could find ourselves falling in love with whomever we found satisfaction within. Am I not getting the point? (Please forgive my somewhat sophomoric questions, but I've recently come out and discussing this with others is relatively new for me.)
Haha, this reminds me of the time my best friend (female) dated a gay guy (he and everyone else knew he was gay at the time). It's always a funny topic to bring up. But you know gay, straight, bi, they're all just lables and nature isn't about labels. (We silly humans like to label things to make it easier for us to understand but it also complicates it.) So yeah you got it. ^_^
