Do you feel that your hangups have held you back, sexually? Are you afraid of trying something because of old taboos and wives tales? What are you afraid of trying? Why?
I'm among the most sexual people I know. People say they can tell when they meet me. I still think I'm hung up, though. I'm a musician, and I can do that with almost zero inhibition. It's just beautiful and powerful and I'm one hundred percent into it. You know those dreams you have where you're doing exactly what you want with your lover and it's really hot? I wake up from those occassional dreams knowing I am not completely uninhibited yet. I'm really not. At least I have something to work towards... Part of it is that porno movies suck. I know that sounds like a leap in the subject here but it's not. The way guys and chicks talk to each other in these movies is, usually, not good. Not that there's anything wrong with two real people talking that way if it turned each other on, but I think a lot of times the people making these movies aren't turned on... so it's empty. So we don't really have any good role models for how to be uninhibited during sex, I don't think. I will do almost anything she requests... but that's not the same as being able to just let the energy play out in a totally uninhibited, spontaneous way without having a second thought. *That* is something to work on.
If you're looking for something "to work on," look no further than your own words. Those dreams should support the fantasy in thinking, in action, and especially in the wonderful practice rounds of masturbation. I cannot count the wonderful experiences that started out as an unfulfilled thought seeded in my mind, to which I became accustomed through masturbation, and later earned me a "Wow!," from deep in a a woman's psychy. Free porn on the net has reared a younger generation unfamiliar with innovation and imagination! They do what they see others do. Do your own thing - it's more fun! You gotta think of it, work it over and wrestle with possible denials and detours (during wanking) and then use it, when you've become accustomed to it through fantasy. Do I make sense? Why else would the gods have given us hands? And once in a while, you just plain need a new partner!
It's a nice dialogue you guys have going here. I would just add that IMO the secret to releasing inhibition is frank communication. Sex is a shared activity between two human beings, with their own whims, insecurities, personalities, hang-ups, etc. Therein lies the rub...
I honestly feel like too much of a perv to share my turn ons with most people, unless they come across as being at least a little kinky themselves. Kinda wish it was different, but that's how I feel (funny since tons of folks on here are waaaay kinkier than I am)
They wouldn't so much hold me back if the right situation arose--i feel OK about it, it's just not happening, and it would help a lot if it fif i also think i'd be good in bed, and sensitive..or whatever she wants!
Also want to add, just an hour or so ago in a different environment I didn't feel hung up at all, and everything could have flowed if something had come about. But where I am now, I'm a little uneasy, so environment makes a difference, for me.
Two things hold me back: Finding a woman in my area that is as open-minded as I am, but still safe. I'm against materialism and many fashions, and many women in society judge a man by these things.
