How do we make ourselves happy?

First of all if not all of you know, I lost my b/f on 9/11/06. Ever since I lost him I've been feeling really bad about myself. I can't find anything good in my life, besides my education. I try and try to go a day without crying and that seems to be impossible to happen. I just need to smile and truely say I love myself, but this is so hard to do. I'm so scared that I'm going to lose someone else that I care about. I can't handle this. How do I make myslef happy?

 

talk to a counseller or something they will help

 

Maybe grief counseling would be helpful. But it is normal to mourn. but mourning may be easier with someone to help.

 

get stoned. it worked for me.

 

i tried that, but all it did was make me paranoid and think more about my problems.

I'm going to wait until the month mark and if there's no improvement, then I'm going to talk to someone. It's hard getting myself to go to one because it's weird telling people about my emotions and problems. I just wish everything could go away. I'm tired of dealing with all of this bullshit and people who claim to be yur friend, but don't care.

 

bumble it isnt easy, isnt going to be for a good long while ,, talking to people is a great thing,,,, ah hell go hop on a city bus n let ppl think yer nuts n babble ya wont see them again.... n you will feel better,,,,, when i cant talk to people... i write,,,, sounds stupid,, its only for my self i generally burn it up later on at some point or immediately,,,, n sometimes i save it but tis rare,,,, if some one was to read it i am sure they would be convinced i am an absolute lunatic filled with venom n hate n insanity,,,,, but i aint,,,, most of the time anyway... type it on here,,, its ok,, sometimes just the interaction with others is a great thing and when yer sick of typing your heart n soul,,, shut it off,,, tis a good thing with computers,,, one of the few good things with them,,,,,,,
as i said .. i listen well n have seen the death of many close to me in weird ass ways and am still kickin n screamin through life... hell iffin ya need a voice holler at me n we have a toll free number here n i 'll listen,,,,,,,

just remember its ok to grieve its a process,,, n its only been a few weeks with lots of other things going on as well,,,, in a bit you will go into another phase of healing,,,,
luv n lite

 

ecstasy - MDMA - chemically induced hapiness within.

 

20 billions and a far island in the pacific . with local guards to keep the U.S navy off limits .

 

Talking about your feelings with others is a great way to help yourself cope. Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a learning expieriance, as we all one day will face this. You hit this speed bump now, remember many times a day a father of 4 dies. I am not saying you are lucky by any means, but just remember everyone, one day, will go thru a death weather it be a close loved one, a friend, or perhaps themselves...

 

Just try to do something you enjoy to cheer yourself up. And some day you'll find someone who really appreciates you.

 

skateboarding used to make me happy.
music makes me happy.

 

bumble my sis you know..im always always here for you..
i suppose i've not realized that youd want to talk everytime you came on & i shoulda..but guess what im always right here & ithinkyou know you can always toalk about your feelings with me..

but ya also know ithink greif councelings not a bad idea

bit i think also..dilli had mentioned writting ... &greiving..& iknow youve spent alotta time crying & well having tobe strong..& deal with stuff like going through all of his belongings..&ithink you need to..find your own way to greive, perhaps write all your feelings..then burn em.. burrythe ashes..you need to really release all those feelings..then let them go..happiness will return..whenyou get back toyour life youve loved

grab your hulahoop..lets go drum..& dance..&move from greiving whats been lost..&start tocelebrate..celebrate all he was that continues on inyour memmories

he loved you..would he want you ever tofeel bad?

ilove ya bumbles..lotsa ppl do..
ya know what...call everyone u care about nearby..lets get everyone together to just hug the hell out of you for as long as it takes to bring back your smile

 

if see a doctor, do it only if necessary....

don't let a break-up do this to you..... you're giving him the upper hand....

not sure about escaping from everything....

call him and make sure it's a definite that you two can't straighten it out
if you go extra steps and make sure all doors are closed, then it's easier to deal with it i think

 

umm guys..it wasnt a break up
her boyfreind passed away 2 weeks ago, not even

i& noone was suggest6ing sa dr as in medications.. we're talking about a greif councelor.. someone specificaly trained to help her throughher greif..i'm not suggesting it just ..letting her know the options there if she needs it
she also has alotof people who care
shes just going through a real sad time & needs some love & understanding to help her through

thnx for tryin tho..but..yea iguess knowing whats really going on might make it easier to collect your thoughts before posting

 

Hi sweetie.

This is a very tough time you're going through. I read what you write, and I remember those things coming out of my mouth, swirling around my head, years ago.

It's tough to not let the sadness and the worst of possibilities stifle you. It's tough to not think about what might happen; what could've been, etc. But worrying will not make you more prepared for anything that might happen, and it certainly won't make you happier, or stronger.

Don't deny your tears... they're there for a reason, let them out. You said you were writing, so keep doing that, you don't have to read what you wrote, just get the pain out of you, and you can burn it, as dilligaff mentioned, or you can keep it if you like. The best way to make yourself happy is to care for yourself... I know it's difficult, but you need to figure out what you really need... do you need to look like you're strong for other people, or do you need to journey through all of the emotions inside yourself? What normally makes you feel happy? Go for nature walks, cook a special meal for yourself, go to a concert, or go to the park, hula hoop, just go do things for yourself that will make you happy, and then when you are feeling sad, don't deny it, don't sweep it under the table... honor it.

And I'm sure your friends will be there for you. With other people it's a little more difficult. More than likely they don't know what to do, and they don't want to hurt you, so they shy away. But if you let them know you need them, I'm sure they will be there for you, or they were not your friends in the first place.

Love you to sweetie, and feel free to pm me again, anytime! ((hugs))

 

To make yourself happy, think that you are happy. You might be wanting to be happy but things that doesn't make you happy are still on your mind. Be motivated in keeping yourself happy. Think positive. Be thankful of the times that you were with him and think that he is happy as well. Just keep yourself motivated and do other things that could make you busy and could make you forget about negative thoughts.



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her boyfriend passed away, he didn't break up with her...

 

remain strong and beautiful even through your tears. it may be hard to see the light through the darkness, but deep inside you know everything happens as it should in this world, even if we dont agree with it. maybe this is a lesson given to specifically to you for a reason.. and it will do nothing but make you stronger and appreciate the love and time you share with others in a deeper way. just take it day by day, and eventually time will heal your heart/mind. hang in there : )

 

just so everyone knows, bumbles doing much much better these days,
she reached the depths of her greif..& almost overnight snapped backtothe adorable bumble iknow & love
thanks for allthe support, but ibelieve shes doing pretty damn good now
and its wonderful to see her smiilling again

 

hey, that's good to hear. . Keep yourself happy and motivated bumbles.




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