Crush on an older woman

I hope this crush does hot up and lead to something. It would make my day!

 

hm ive had similar experience last 12 months. i fancied a woman at work who usedta be my boss and shes in her early 50s, divorced, and her oldest son is 35. im 23. but she always seemed friendly, smiling alot and the winks. it all felt very flirty. nothing happened and i never told her though she knew i was bi. she usedta ask me about my love life when we chatted too. finally ive managed to get over it coz it messed me up alot seein her all the time an caused me to break up from the relationship i was in. i think she probably saw me in a motherly caring way, rather than a sexual way, even though sometimes it seemed like that with comments she made, like with you, that i looked nice, or when i wore a short skirt once instead of my typical long one, she commented that they didnt usually get to see my legs and other such things. i told her off jokingly for slacking and not making the works xmas do last year and she was so apologetic to me and stuff. i mean she definately flirted alot with me, but i flirted alot with her and im not sure she realised she was doin it. tho to this day i still dont know if she blew a kiss to me or not when i got out of her car when she gave me a lift to the train station once last year. but anyway...yeh similar experience...all i can say is try not to let it screw too much with you like i let it do to me. all the fantasies etc and the jumpy feeling when you see her...is the up side of these crushes.....tears and heartache are the downside on the same emotional scale. best of luck. peace and love xx

 

I think you're right Autumn as not knowing if she likes me or not is beginning to mess with my head and upset me already. I have enough on my plate as it is at the moment and sometimes I think this tutor is like a form of escapism for me - like a drug which I have been addicted to over the last 6 months. For me I need a type of fixation in order to function otherwise I feel like nothing. I've always felt like this and always will. There's nothing better than the anticipation of seeing someone you fancy! It's the ultimate high! It's nice to have another focus other than just study/work, hobby, family and friends.

The problem is I just wanna know where I stand with her and don't know how to go about finding out. Also the problem is I don't know her that well. If I was to say anything to her, I have no idea how she will react. Because I'm in a negative frame of mind I sense the worst. And if she told me she wasn't interested, it not only would knock me big time, but it will only drag up bad memories. Atleast I would know where I stood, but the negative scenario would far outweigh the positive so right now I feel it's best to not know. Part of me wants to forget I ever felt this way towards her.

Perhaps it's just better to go with the flow and not be too bothered. If me and her are suppossed to bump into each other regularly as opposed to me trying to find every opportunity to bump into her then it's meant to be (in whatever way). Perhaps only fate can decide.

 

It would be wonderfull !!!!!!!!!!!

 

What do you mean? Sorry I'm a little confused!

 

If it did actually grow into something...it would be wonderful !!!!

 

I thought that was what you meant!

 

Of Course..you know I wish you all of the luck in the world..!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Well thank you! Much appreciated!

 

Gah, I love this thread. You HAVE to make a move. I HAVE to see this beautiful story unfold. I have had similar things and I just never had the guts to do anything about it. Good luck!!

 

Oh, I wish I could make something happen. I just fear the worst which is understandable as usually when I'm in this type of situation it usually backfires or doesn't go quite how I want it to. However I'm a little more wiser and more cautious - if anything I'm bordering on the paranoid side! :H I take it you've been reading through this thread. Well you know I mentioned how I was on the train and she got on and walked all the way down the carriage, sat down and a few secs later got her mobile phone out (bearing in mind you can't send a text on the underground!) I immediately got that sinking feeling as if I'd been rejected, when I saw her walk off.

Taking into account I was feeling hormonal (which tends to make my judgement a bit off), I thought she doesn't like me, she thinks I'm a freak, I must have it all wrong etc. The reality is she might not have seen me, unlikely but possible. She may have seen me and have similar feelings, but panicked out of nerves and so walked away quickly. She may have planned it and even though she was further up the carriage she made a point of sitting where I could clearly see her (the "Look at Me" syndrome) and hope that I might make a move - which i did which was when I ended up going over and speaking to her and her acting all surprised. There could be other reasons too. I'm still not sure enough if she likes me.

 

It could be the CHASE ME game....!!!!!!!!!!...I recall the thrill of the chase ....WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I'm surprised she's not chasing me more - she is the more dominant one!

 

So was my ex.....but she liked to pretend to be hard to get !!!

 

It's funny how they try and do the whole macho thing. With me I feel I play the more female role. I'm more expressive and girly in my behaviour. Also with this woman I've noticed she wants to know a lot about me but doensn't want to give much away about herself.

 

I'm pretty gay so Im not sure if what i beleive applies to you but it seems to with all my crazy lesbian cousin's mode of thinking, who i love very much, but all I can say is GO FOR IT! seriously! being akward is far less of a deal compared to what kind of joy you can get from being with with some one special to you, if it works than it's great, if it doesnt then it is only a slight bit of discomfort. From what I have learned age does not matter at all, it's what society imposed upon us, if it feels natural, go for it.

 

I'm gonna bide my time. Take time to check her out a bit more. Try and get an indication on how she feels, look at her body language more. I might even back off this week just to see how she reacts. As much as I don't like playing games I need to know she definitely likes me before I take things one step further. I absolutely don't want to make a prat out of myself.

 

Good Idea !!!!!!

 

keep us updated! -very- romantic story. Good luck sis!

 

I've seen her twice this week. The first time I was on a break and was talking to a friend on my mobile outside the photocopying room. She then came out and winked at me so I smiled to acknowledge her. My heart was racing and I was completely taken back. A few minutes later I was still talking on the mobile and was leaning forward on the window sill and out the corner of my eye she walked past again....hopefully she got a nice view of my bum!

Today, I was outside talking to a friend on my break again. It was raining slightly and we'd been chatting for about 5 mins when I just happened to glance over to the other side of the street and I could see a woman under her umbrella sneaking a look at me. I immediately thought it looked like my tutor, but was surprised to see her on the other side of the road. Anyway a couple of lorries drove by so I couldn't see to check, but once they drove past, sure enough it was her and she was about to cross the street to where I was standing. I pretended not to notice, until she was right by me and then I turned my head and completely ignored what my friend was saying and started talking to her. She was friendly and we spoke for about a minute. When we were saying goodbye I winked at her and she winked back!