A simple little prediciment.

There is a kid at my school - let's call him George.

Now, he's a very open homosexual (as am I) but he is very flamboyant. I try my best not to be. George is well known throughout the school as 'George the Gay Kid' and everyone likes him.

For example:
If a guy, whether gay or straight, were to pinch a girl's butt, they'd probably slap him.
However, if GEORGE would pinch their butt, they'd laugh it off because it's 'George the Gay Kid.'

It's not like I hate him for having all that 'freedom,' it's just that he's so effing popular.

He's cute. I'm not.
He's gay and loved. I'm gay and liked.
He's tall and handsome. I'm not.
He sings beautifully. I draw pictures.
He's in IB. I'm in one honors class.

Now, he's like... ME but 2.0. We share a lot of friends and stuff, but I almost HATE him for it. Like, DETEST him.

But... I also have a huge crush on him at the same time. When I talk to him, I laugh and flirt without knowing it. He's got a boyfriend, who he is taking to Homecoming.

I'm at a loss - it's not a life issue, but it's confusing me nonetheless. Any advice?

 

Let George be who he is.

Develop yourself and grow to be an authentic yourself.

You'll soon see that popularity only goes this far. Yeah, on the surface, it is all nice and shiny. Scratch that surface and all kinds of problems neatly tucked in start showing up.

No one is really more attractive than the self-confident dude, who is marching to his own drums and doing his own thing.

People instictively like to congregate around the popular dudes. (I am speaking out of personal experience here). They love to bask in your shine and enjoy your and theirs popularity. But make no mistake, the moment something goes wrong, they'll be all over him trying to pull him down. This is what happens to all the idols in every community.

Once people see that you are perfectly grounded, not seeking their popularity overtly and that you are radiating your own self-confidence, you'll win big time.

Take it from someone, who has been there and done all of that.

SC

 

Good advice from KewlDewd.

"Once people see that you are perfectly grounded, not seeking their popularity overtly and that you are radiating your own self-confidence, you'll win big time. "


^Definitely.

 

can't say it any better than what KewlDewd said, great words to follow. Best of luck to you. Remember, you are always welcome here to rant and get stuff off your chest or just chat.

bob