This is kind of a follow-up to a thread I started earlier about talking to girls and such. The information has been very helpful, but I have still not used it. My question is: When you finally get the courage to get up and talk to a girl(in my case i know nothing about her, most of you know the story) what do you say? I was thinking about taking one of the pieces of advice and asking her "would you like to eat lunch with me?" but while eating lunch what do I talk about? Just sitting there and watching each other eat and having to think of things to say just seems like something I could never do. So, to summarize it's really 2 questions. 1) What do I say when I approach her, do I just introduce myself?(keep in mind we know nothing about each other, not even names) and 2) If she excpets my invite to eat lunch or chat what am i suppose to say? Thankyou, any help will be much appreciated
You could start with "Where are you from originally? Have any siblings? If so,what are their ages? Tell me a funny story about when you were a kid? Any pets?" Ya know,make the questions light but also something that would make her think about or were interesting. Stay away from dumb questions like,"What's your favorite color?"
Talk to her like you'd talk to anybody else. Girls are people, they're not from outer space. Just talk about whatever interests you or is on your mind like you would with anyone else. Just relax and be comfortable.
My heart already bleeds because you might be setting yourself up for a heart-break... maybe. Before you say anything to her you gotta square things off with yourself. What about this girl makes me interested? How important is she and why? What are my insecurities? How will I handle rejection if it comes? Before you talk to her you gotta be able to accept that she might not be interested. And women usually aren't. So.... Have you gotten any eye-contact yet? A smile maybe? You might want to wait for that to happen, it makes it much easier. Maybe try to find something out about her through a mutual acquaintance. Like in what class she is or something. If you want to just use your guts and go ahead talk to her, I'd suggest saying something related to school for starters. In whatever case, school is what both of you SHARE, so the conversation should start with, in what class she's in or something. From there, you gotta figure out what peaks your interest about her? Is she just a pretty face or are you curious about where she's from, how old, what her parents do, etc.? What does she think of the school? Don't ask anything too trivial nor too heavy. As far as how to approach her, I'd just go to the cafeteria or sometime where she's sitting alone and ask if I could sit down. Then I'd say, Hi, my name is so and so. Nice meeting you. Then you go on to, do you mind me asking what grade you're in, or something like that... Then toward the end of lunch you might offer a compliment if things went well, or just say, I enjoyed talking with you. The next time won't be so hard. P.S.: If she's with friends when you talk to her, I'd suggest you interact with ALL of them, don't burden her with your need of attention. And also don't be self-conscious about whatever expectations you may feel are placed upon you. If you need to scratch your head, scratch your head, etc. Don't try to act like you're not nervous either. Either you are or you aren't.
yeah. the most important thing to keep in mind, as someone already said, is girls are people too. i completly understand the whole aprehension. i use to be there myself. but as soon as that ice breaks, a whole world of oppurtunities open up to you. i wouldn't just go up to her. like someone else said, has she smiled or anything at you? look for little cues like that before you go up. it may be too forward to go sit next to her, especially if you don't know her name. maybe you should just have a mini-conversation with her first. break the ice. but, also keep in mind, if you never say anything to her, you'll never get rejected, but you'll never get her either. if you at least try to talk to her, you'll actually create the chance that she might be yours. good luck.
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Invite her and her friends to a party somewhere. That will make talking easier. Walking up to someone you don't know, and then asking them to have lunch with you is just uncomfortable.
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the only thing i can think of would be to make friends with her, then gradually make her more and more comftorable around you, then its easy as hell to get with them...unless you do something stupid like i have manye a time and it blows up in your face!
