im new here and i need help

hi all, how u doin? jus thought i would introduce my self, my name is ashley and im 16, ive known i was gay since i was 11, but didnt tell anyone till i was 16, as i was in denial of who i was. I live in Birmingham, England.
well i have a problem there is this really cute guy who lives by me but im not sure if he is gay or straight, i feel like im in love with him, wenever i c him i cant help but smile, i cant get him off my mind, i dont know what 2 do, im afraid of getting of hurt if i just go up 2 him and ask him if he is gay, what should i do ?

 

Why dont you start off by making friends with him first...JUST friends...that way you can get to know him and the two of you can build a friendly bond....then, if hes gay also....you two will have a history already and will be comfortable with each other.

 

were already sort of friends like we will talk 2 eachother if we c eachother in the street, so i dont have 2 worry about making friends with him i supose i just need 2 get 2 know him better, my moms friend knows him very well so i might ask her if she thinks he is gay because i know she will give me an honest answer.

its just annoying not knowing if he is gay or straight.
thanks

 

Its cool..I know just how you feel..Ive been in that same situation lots of times !!!

 

You do not want other people involved in this.

Asking him if he is gay, is a very personal question. Using a proxy is a baaad idea.

So, how about, asking him for coffees or cokes or something and asking him about his life?

KD

 

I vote for the get to know him better yourself.
Bring up things that you might have in common.
Build up to coming out to him.

 

No guarantees, but this might be worth a try. When you are with him, casually observe what he looks at. If he checks out all the girls who go by and ignores the boys, he is probably straight. If he ignores the girls and looks at the boys, watch his gaze more closely: If he looks at ther faces he may just be checking to see if he knows them, but if his gaze strays farther down thier bodies he just might be gay.

 

Spy on him and read his letters!​

...actuallynobadidea...​

Get to be​

friends first.​

Even if he​

turns out to​

be straight,​

you can at​

least be friends!​

I agree with​

Ezrebet and​

KewlDewd -​

get to know​

the guy! I​

have several​

crushes on​

heterosexuals,​

but I accept​

that they are​

who they are.​

If he is straight,​

don't despair -​

another hottie​

will appear at​

your doorstep​

someday! <3​

​

Edit:​

Try coming up​

from behind him​

and yell:​

"MM-TIS MM-TIS MM-TIS"​

and see if he​

starts to dance. <3​

 

well last night i told my friend i really liked this boy and then he walked up the road with his friends and she said to him ' oi gazza are you gay?' and he said yh y is he (me) interested. and i just hid behind the door lol. then later that day he was with his friends waiting for a taxi and he kept looking at me and just before he got in the taxi he looked back and smiled, so i dont know if he is joking around or if he is gay im so confused lol

 

Chances are..if he's straight , he wouldnt be teasing you that way. I would toss him a big smile back....and see what happens !!!!