This question has been on my mind for a while but it slowly is fading in my mind so i thought id post this before it goes away...hah ok do you think it is possible to have a friendship and have sexual intercourse with your friend?...the only catch is, at one point you dated them and fell in love but then it ended based on a whole bunch of stuff. then after you regained some form of a friendship asked if it would ok to "mess around" with just them but get told they think "it would be wrong because of the feelings" i dont have these feelings ALL i mean there is still an attraction but its not like all "we hae to go out to have sex" basically im getting out...is sex ok given this situation if you can understand it. i dont think sex is as big of a deal as people make it out to be. if the attraction is there or just the wantingness of it, shouldnt it sorta work out?
I think it is possible, however you both need to discuss how you think it is going to affect you both emotionally. Will you be able to walk away from each other after the deed is done. Also bear in mind how much the friendship actually means to you. Would it be a loss to you if you loose your friendship? I do know what you mean. It depends in your case of the guys feelings. He may have an emotional attachment and if you had sex would stir alsorts. Matt
im the one that everyone thinks wont be able to handle it...but im grown up and believe i can handle it. everyone grows and learns. but somehow the point isnt getting across but i really dont see how this is a bad thing. we can still have a friendship with or without having sex. its kust im a teenager and i have NEEDS...hah i just want it to be fun. no strings attached kinda thing
sure its possible, this is what my ex and i occasionally do... when he isn't being obsessive. well, i guess hes still in love with me but i don't feel the same way. now that i think about it, i feel kind of bad.
My best friend and I will occasionally have sex. I lost my virginity to her, she lost her virginity before me. We both have had sex with other partners afterward (only one for the both of us). Does jealousy set in? Yes, but I would probably feel the same regardless if we had sex or not. Our views on sex are the same. Sex can be used for recreation, for love and reproduction. And its not like we are trying to hurt eachothers love lifes, we give advice and hook each other up on dates. This doesn't work with everyone. Don't do it if you have any doubts, it's not worth a good friendship.
I dunno, I'd like to just have sex with the girl I love and love spending all my time with, something to share with her. I could only ever share that with someone i really care about and love. But then again, you can lvoe and care about a friend. so im really not sure. do what feels right to you?
It all depends on who is involved. Sex is tied to emotional needs for a lot of people and there are some who don't mix the two.
i have friendship feelings but thats about it. once you stop connecting on a love relationship like dating wise and then just become friends after, evenchally the love "omg i love you so much lets spend every day together" feelings it goes away or drastically decreases. i still have an attraction and wouldn't mind bumping and grinding (heh) ever so often but only to one person. if you have sex with more than one person, then i think thats bad.
Personally I have to have the loving connection to enjoy the sex. That is just the way I'm wired and yea its a pain sometimes. You just have to find someone who feels the same way about it as you.
I'm inclined to say there is a good chance it wont work. Sex brings out the emotions is nearly everyone...and well such emotions generally are attachment, jealousy, love, etc....at least on one side and that's where the problem genrally lies. Of course it could work afterall....
