if your significant other cheated on you

ok here's a question. say you've been going out with someone for about 6 months, you dig them and your growing closer and they cheat on you with 2 people one of em being your friend and you break up. 6 months later you work shit out and start going out again. this time you're getting really close and you fall in love with this person and after about 8 months they start wanting to hang out with other people and they kick it with only occasionally. you spaz out and spy on them and find out they're cheating on you again and it's a messy break up. you talking shit, them talking shit fucking with you and your family, I mean a very messy break up. would you ever consider taking that person back? personally I woulda cut em out after the 1st incident yadameen? I'm asking cause my homeboy went through this and is not just taking this beezy back but, they're moving in together. oppinions please.

 

no

 

1st time shame on you, 2nd time shame on me, 3rd time your fucken retarded
So basically the answer is no I would not ttake her back

 

is it just me or is this boy a fuckin sucka? 1st time ok, if you really love the beez but, a 2nd time and you get a house with the ripper? should check him off as a bonafied suckbutt, hecta the ho protecta, captain save-a-ho. but, he's my nigga and all i can do is give him advice and hope he makes the right decision.

 

hell fucking no, that's ridiculous

 

i know from experience. Ex hubby cheated when we were just dating, got married bought a house, cheated again, had brynne found out he had been cheating for 5 years off and on with this bitch he works with.

my old boss told me, "once a cheater always a cheater" i never believed him, i wish i had.

anyways, leopards never change their spots.

 

Nope.... one time I'd consider forgiving....everyone can make a mistake once. Second time, bye.

 

If they had an exclusive, then he's nuts to trust her a third time. One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get different results. The guy needs work.

 

1st time, maybe. but after a 2nd time, fuck no, she'd be outta my life so fast.

 

well, i've cheated on a significant other and it only happened once.. i would NEVER do anything like that again; our relationship was ruined after it happened. i can't see being cheated on three times and getting back with the person. they're obviously not sincere if they keep doing it.

 

ok, so my nigga says they're just friends but, he's ripping and they're moving in together, the fuck? he also said if they do get back together it will be way down the line after she proves herself to him and offers him the world. ok buddy, ya just keep dreamin'

 

Well they both sound a little fucked up. Maybe they're perfect for eachother.

 

if things didnt work out and got "messy"as you put it ........anyway theres a couple billion other folks you could get with ....why try the almost sure fire failure waiting to explode ?....never go back .....i did , and look at the mess im in ...if i had a life id be elsewhere .....not here , anyone with over 1000 posts , has got no life at all ....even though a bunch of peeps visited me today , and we all did good drugs and passed time with pleasant bantor , im sleeping by myself again tonight ...im quite good looking , witty and amusing .....but my last little co-habitor ruined me .......i put out alellopathic vibes

 

i would never take anyone back if they cheated on me

fuck that shit! if i loved them it's even worse cos it would break my heart... and once that happens they can't fix it or have me back.

that guy needs to get some backbone

 

what about frontbone?....and who would you shoot the adultress or the cuckold ?

 

Well, if she cheated, especially with TWO people, she's definitely getting cut from the starting line-up. May keep her as a reserve for some late-night-drunken-I-need-to-fuck instances, but that'd be it. Reason being is I figured out why those who cheat continue to do so.

You see it's not that if a person cheats on you they'll cheat on everybody else too. Nope. Instead if they cheat on you and you forgive them and take them back, they're probably going to assume they can pull it off a second time. Not only do they feel smarter about it after being busted once, but they figure if enough time passes in between, you'll forgive them again; IF you catch them again.

That being said, once I break up with a girl, that's it. There's no going back. There's no reason to go back. Obviously it didn't work. I think dating and having monogomous relationships is much like everything else in this world. People want a quick easy solution.

 

See, the last paragraph I disagree with a little. I think after a while (ie at least a few years) there may be the potential to date again. At least, if part of the reason why you guys broke up was due to immaturity (from one or both of you).

Some aspects of a person can change a lot in a few years. Some, very little.

but, yeah, that's just my take on it As for cheating, that's a pretty major flaw/issue to change

 

Once a cheat always a cheat. Your buddy is just going to get hurt but you have to just back off sometimes and let people learn the hard way.

 

While I agree that some aspects of a person can change a lot in a few years, it has always seemed to me that the more things change, the more they stay the same. Don't get me wrong, I do chuckle a bit when I hear that "so and so" is back with "miss thing" for the third time, but I don't judge 'em for it. We all choose our own path, and for me that's just not the path I choose.

 

great minds think alike. i'm no dick head dog or anything, i treat women like queens but, everybody needs bench warmers yadameen? keep a wid and treat her good, let the ho roam. if you handcuff a girl you're asking for it.