I don't mind other male friends in social situations but going on a date with my girl, no. Sorry, and why is it she "couldn't" say no again?
I still don't see why that means she has to say yes I will go on a date with you. I have many female friends but one on one dinners are not a part of it.
If the guy has feelings for her, it's not a good idea for her to go out with him. It sends the wrong message, in my opinion. If they were always just friends...and nothing more...a friendly dinner is harmless. I think your situation fits into the first example, however, and your girlfriend really could have said no.
Hey man you are the only one who knows what you are confortable with. I personally try my hardest not to play the games. Setting limits is not controlling someone either. They always have an out IMO. Most women like men that know where they stand, but yet let them make their own decisions. If they chose to cross that line then you have your answer.
I did not read this thread before it was all deleted, but I agree with the sentiment that to set limits is not to control, but to just say "this is what I'm ok with". The other half has the choice of whether to stick to the "limits" or not, you're not forcing them to abide by anything, but if someone really loves/likes/cares about you then they will not act in a way that hurts you by going beyond what you are ok with. Everyone does it to some extent unconsciously anyway. I guess it can be a passion killer to lay it down overtly, but the standard sortsa acceptable behaviour in a healthy relationship should be understood by most people anyway without the need to state it. Unless you are into the dogging/swinging/hotelparty thing in which case you do both need to state what you are both comfortable with. Probably nothing to do with the thread (since I didn't have a chance to read it ".") but its late, I'm awake and I need a cigarette. Or something stronger.
