Nice guys finish last?

I'm a super nice guy, and I always make sure that she finishes several times before I do.

 

boosh is a nice guy, and he's gotta beat the ladies off with a stick. i guess if you're nice, it helps to be attractive, too. nice girls don't get any either if they're ugly.

 

Well that was graphic.

Seriously though, I have always tried to be a nice person. I like to think that I succeed more often than I fail, and I've never had much of a problem attracting women.

I think that the mistake some people make is to equate nice with wimpy. You can be nice without being a doormat. I've never met a woman who said to me "Why can't I find a wussy guy?"

 

well, someone is either going to be attracted to you or not. people have spent ungodly amount of money trying to figure out why. who can say? really. i've been attracted to all sorts of people on the physicality spectrum, with particular attention to large nosed men. the only thing they ever had in common was a very sharp mind, sense of humor, and a certain physical presence to them that i can't really explain. they're all charismatic and forceful, but i don't abide abusive dicks at all.

 

I dont think so... people have different points of view based on this saying

 

That's a great way of looking at it. I'm pretty much the same way.

 

A "nice guy" who is being "nice" as a means of getting a girlfriend isn't actually being "nice" - it's being manipulative, as it means he's not really being himself.

 

I'm a nice guy and I most defiantly have not finished last!! my gf is beautiful and has a personality and intelligence to match!

I would say spineless guys finish last, behind the assholes, who are behind the nice guys who stick up for themselves when needed, in that order.

some girls with insecruity issues and/or shitty fathers date assholes for a while and sometimes wisen up..or because the relationship model set by their parents is so shitty, they feel being treated shitty is expected since their parents displayed it. Its all in your upbringing, confidence, social skills and even intelligence. Every girl I have known who has dated an ass lacked one of those, if not more qualities. granted outside forces can help in keeping girls away from an ass but we have all seen the girlfriends urging their friend to dump the asshole..and generally see how that works... not so well. so learning from your own experience is key in the end, and why girls who usually end up with assholes consistenly..well..need to wisen up

assholes are insecure too because they know what girls to prey on..and avoid the girls who will call them out for their bullshit, girls who are socially intelligent/aware and know thats not they way they need to be treated.

 

I should ask you to clarify that more as it is a vauge statement.

how is being nice being manipulative? if you are nice in the extreme sense, like buying a girl tons and tons of gifts and showering them with praise...yah..if that is what you mean.

but a nice guy acting nice to get a girl is pretty normal I would say. you hold the door open, complement her on a nice dress and help her out if she needs it..with homework or an art project..its not manipulative its simply how you get a girl.

 

I think I'm generally nice to most people, but I'm nicer to people I want to have sex with, as it's part of wanting to have sex with someone.

Of course, it's often the case that when you remove the prospect of sex, then you're often left with very few things to like about someone. Some girls can make pretty boring friends!

 

I think the term 'nice' in reference to a person is completely relative. There are numerous people out there who consider me a 'nice guy' and numerous people that don't think so. Same goes for everyone

 

I consider myself dominant, but not overly dominant, and although I get girls, I can never get to the relationship step. My friend Liz's boyfriend slaps her, you think tht might work?? (j/k)