Okay,, so I'm in a fairly sticky situation right now. My boyfriend and I have been going out for two months, I'm 18, he's newly 19,, and we spend dick shit all time with one another. I work at least 4 nights a week, and I DO tell him in advance what my nights off are. Yet he never takes advantage of them to invite me over or anything. Now I do believe that I am waaaaaay more into this relationship than he is, at least it seems that way. I wonder what he's doing or what're his plans for later, and I get mad because I realize I've just spent half the day thinking about him. Which is horribly new and terrifying for me, since this is my first boyfriend and I have no idea what I'm doing. We try and make plans sometimes, but they keeping falling through, so I haven't seen him in TWO WEEKS because he doesn't seem to care and I don't want to come off as needy because both of us despise neediness. Is it just me, or is seeing my boyfriend once a week,, or in this case, a fortnight,, odd to anyone else but me? I mean, I have no experience here, but it just seems unusual! Anyone here got a verdict? Ooooooor some advice or something? PS_I think about sex more than a rabbit it heat. So that's got a pretty damn good helping hand in the frustration.
Heh,, I did that one time before,, totally rocked his box. And him getting it from someone else IS something I tend to worry about, because he has ALOT of chick friends.. and I know for a proven fact that some of them aren't above cheating matters. But the REAL question is... is HE above cheating? I haven't really spent enough time with him to figure out how loyal he is yet. This whole problem could be because he's somewhat of an utter flake. Like right now, I'm supposed to be out with him to watch the UFC match tonight, but I can't get a-freakin'-hold of him because he's out with Sara. Damn flake.
From the sounds of it, he isn't ready to be in a full blown commited relationship. Perhaps, you should let things simmer down and don't label yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend....more as seeing each other or dating. Your relationship sounds really one sided, and those are never fun. Personally, I would never be with someone who takes no initiative to see me but than again you have to take some too. I know you hinted to him the days you have off but have you asked him if he wants to do something at a particular date?
Actually yeah, I invited him to dinner not too long ago, my treat, but then he got sick, then on Friday he invited me to the Trailer Park Boys movie, but it never came to the theater, and he's the one who invited me to watch UFC tonight, but I couldn't reach him, and whenever he invites me out I'm working. It's like the... something kosmic... -(I would say world, but that seems a bit drastic)- is trying to keep us from eachother. Funny thing is, he's been in a serious relationship before... it lasted three years before she moved away. And he's the one who first referred to himself as my boyfriend.
He sounds like a flake. I often can't see someone more than once a week when I'm dating them. Maybe twice if they're willing to meet me on campus for lunch. But that's because my schedule is often full and always weird, and same with the guys I tend to date. But, your guy sounds like he's just been blowing you off. I'm not saying break up with him, but I think you need to talk it out with him.
If he doesn't seem like he wants to spend time with you there is a reason. I would just quit making the effort, just to see his reaction. It would seem to me that he would want to be with you as much as possible.
I thought he was just getting comfortable, like everyone does,, but maybe he is just getting sick of me? In which case he should have the balls to tell me and get it over with. Man do I ever seem fickle right now... but I'm just tryin' to play out every scenario. Best to worst.
I'm sorry to say this, but if he really cared, he would want to spent more time with you than that...he does sound like a bit of a flake to me...sorry.
