why would you want your partner to be jealous? thats lame. i used to date a guy for 2 years who would delete all the guys on my msn and get mad if i talked to his friends, even if he invited them over. needless to say, i left him. jealousy is for idiots.
my ex forced me to stop knowing some of my best friends just because i'd known them before I knew her, so therefore i'd OBVIOUSLY slept with them and done every sexual act imaginable *roll eyes*
You should try to make your partner feel secure instead of insecure in general. However, that doesn't mean you have to have no contact with the oppisite sex. Some insecurity is just irrational but is very real to the person affected. Only you know what you can tolerate and can't tolerate.
Ohhh I cannot stand people who do this. It's juvenile and quite pathetic. Seriously, why would do want to do that to somebody that you are suppose to care about? It just doesn't make sense and yet I see it soooo frequently. Most everybody I know, myself included, can attest to their partner doing this. It really comes down to insecurity and jealously; two things I refuse to put up with anymore.
I like this thread.. I have made partners jealous on purpose.. Sadly, if it worked it showed me they cared about me which is quite pathetic.. My partners have also made me jealous on purpose for the same reason.. I believe when you care about someone deeply you need to make that person feel loved and wanted so they want to be in your life. When I think about someone who claims they love me hurting me in such a way to get me upset and prove I care, I realize I am better off without them.. I want a partner who is uplifting, not bringing me down for their own satisfaction.. I don't want anyone who feels the need to belittle me and make me upset just to get me to hold on to them.. It isn't right and no one should put up with it.. I'm guilty myself and realize how childish and stupid it really is.. I guess we all have some insecurities.. It's nice to have someone care about you, but hurting someone for the hell of it isn't love.
i hate that. that is probably why i never get into real relationships anymore. i can't handle being controlled.
I dont try to make my partner jealous. He's see right throught it anyway... I dont think that jealousy is such a bad thing though. Its what is letting you know that youre not okay with something and perhaps you need to find out why. I think partners need to be understanding about jealousy, and thats not to say they shuld pander to it, but if your partner has a problem with something you do, its worth talking it out with them to see that you cant reach some sort of compromise.
yeah! I really tried it just to test how he really loved & cared me and it really feels great everytime he got jealous...
Jealousy is a destructive emotion. Okay, it tells you that you don't want to lose someone. But beyond that, it just gets in the way. It poisons the chance for trust, and that's what every relationship needs to work. I'm not saying that jealousy is so easy to avoid, but doing it intentionally? Why create needless drama in a relationship? The person who intentionally makes their partner jealous is saying "Ooh, you could lose me! See, you could lose me!" Me... I think they deserve to be lost. It's manipulation, and that's grounds for hitting the pavement with their ass.
Excessive jealousy isnt healthy for a relationship. There are those who find it funny or cool to make their partner jealous, but to me, I find that they make their partner miserable. I saw breakups because of these stupid jealousy tests. I tried it out of fun though my guy knew what I was doing and he simply told me that I dnt need to make him jealous for him to know how much he loves and wants me with him! That was so sweet-I confessed that I was playing the fool and he said that he knew it all in the first place. Jealousy can flare up even the stupidest of fights and blow it out of proportion. To me, honestly if someone feels the need to make his/her partner jealous, then I would say that their relationship is DEAD!
my boyfriend gets jealous of my friends (which are mainy males) but yet he wont even know them so why should he have the right to judge whether they're 'trustworthy' or not. it bugs me that he doesnt like me talkin to them. i wish he would get over it cos i want to spend my life with this man
a little bit of jealousy is always natural and fine as it creates that exclusive nature. although jealousy can be taken to far, small doses are fine. most people show some kind of jealousy sub conciously and without realizing it. most people desire that "one" person in their life..that or they are a loner...or mormon...
I don't think jealousy is a bad thing at all. I mean, it's bad if you're doing it for your own ego... but it can also lend a great charge to sex. I think it's a natural reaction, anyway... I mean, if I didn't get jealous within a relationship, then I'd probably get lazy, which is way worse. I wouldn't ever do anything to hurt anyone because I was jealous though... that's the big difference. I would just try to get her attention back somehow, or I'd probably just like to be assured that she wasn't attracted to some new guy or mad at me or unhappy in our relationship. I think that most of all, jealousy makes me realize that I care about this person enough to not want to lose them, which I don't think there's anything wrong with. If I wasn't a bit jealous sometimes, then that would probably mean I didn't care, and she could do whatever she wanted with whoever she wanted... but if she's not happy with something and afraid to tell me, or if it's not working, or if she wants to see other people then I'd like to know! It's necessary, because sometimes people just aren't forthcoming with their emotions...
