Man or Woman Forum

Frankly, I don't care where i post this because it is a relevant in both places and quite frankly again, I want women to read this!.

Please please please! stop dressing the way you do!, well maybe not some of you but if you are in between the ages of 18-25 stop with the "hey look i am almost bare, but not really" clothes already.

Personally, I dont' want to STARE at a girl's partially bare chest when i am talking to her but i CAN'T help it, my eyes just go that way, but they still get upset and uncomfortable, and i don't want to make some one who is talking to me uncomfortable, but i can't just tell her that because i just met her.

Sigh, the things that i do... and what the hell is this other girl doing at 12:00AM at NIGHT in a miniskirt on campus??!!! people come to study sure... i will buy that, but they dont' have to wear _______(insert your derogatory title) miniskirt in the middle of the night to study!. I should have gone there and I should have told her that she is insane or i should have said "go home, idiot" but what do I do, just stare at her legs. but really, is it my problem? No , it is the police's problem if anything happens to her, and hopefully she is not stupid enough to not call the police to escort her to her dorm. My only problem is this overgrown conscience that keeps caring for absolute strangers, yes i am a good person and i suffer because of it, but seriously if that was my sister, i would have taught her a lesson.

Anyway, hopefully you got the point that i was trying to make in this emotional yet truly felt post. please understand and be atleast modest (for the sake of all the "Jedis" out there). You know, it was once said that landing on the moon was "a little step for man and a giant leap for mankind"- Well scratch that and go with this- wearing some decent clothing is "A little step for the woman , but a giant leap for Man (yes men.. like me) kind"

 

I hate you and everything you stand for.

 

I'm sorry, I'm in the age group you sterotyped and I kind of took offense to it. Sure, I probably have a good idea of the girl you are refering to and I wouldn't write myself as that type, but I hate writing myself as any type. Personally, what difference does it make to you? If she wants to dress a certain way and if it's not hurting anybody WHO CARES? Perhaps it may bring unwated or wanted attention and I'm sure most girls are aware of this. Personally, if someone wanted to study naked, I don't think it should be a problem. To each to their own.

 

I think you might be barking up the wrong tree... or posting on the wrong forum. I would wager a guess that a majority of the people/women/girls who post here aren't really into the tart look. We are more likely to wear longjohns under our skirts, and long sleeved tees under halter tops.

 

maybe the problems not what they wear but how u see them?
personaly i have absolutely no problem sitting with a woman whos totaly naked, & not have my eyes wander from hers while discussing philosophy or spirituality or whats for dinner.. why do u have to see a woman as being body parts covered or uncovered & not as the being within?

ever think they may wear short skirts cause its hot out? or its confortable or they just like that skirt?

arent jedi's suposed to have some control?

 

I wear what I want to wear, it's not my fault that you can't keep your eyes on your schoolwork.

Admittedly I haven't worn a mini out of the house in years, and I don't dress like I'm hitting up the bar later that night, but that doesn't mean I don't have every right too. Maybe you need to find a better spot to study in, someplace a little more isolated? Our library has little cubicles set up on each floor (and it's about 7floors I think) where you aren't distracted by outside forces near as much.

 

if they covered up entirely you'd just get as distracted by theyre hair or eyes..or nose..or whatever u can see..
if u lived in a musim country where the norm was almost totaly hiding the female form, wouldnt ube just as bent out of shape if u were accidently flashed a wrist & got al distracted
its not what theyre wearring thats distracting u..its u wondering whats hidding beneath..
thatswhy ithink u gotta lookeven deeper & tryto see whats hiding beneath that skin..soits not about clothes..or skin..but the real woman she is

i should be asleep sothats probly not too clear

 

Go become a hermit. Either that, or grow up. I think you are the one with the problem. Don't expect everyone else to change, you need to.

 

I never ever wear tarty clothes but where the fuck do you get off telling women what they should or shouldn't wear?!?!
It's none of your business what ANY person wears. If you can't be happy for a stranger's freedom what will you be like when you get a girlfriend who likes to wear a short skirt or skimpy top? Ban her from ever leaving the house?
I hope there's a womens refuge where you live.

 

hey are you a las vegan vegan lass...oh no your from whales ....but your probly never goin to be a whale with that diet

 

This is stupid, nothing wrong with women wearing sexy clothes and if you look but not stare there isnt anything to be uncomfortable about.

There are things so much worse in this world, so much more clearly bad that i wouldnt worry too much about mini skirts, and hell if you didnt like them you wouldnt have so much trouble not looking at them.

 

^^ Good point there xac. The funny thing is, to a point I almost aggree with you Jedi. do think that society has become too obsessed with showing skin and a lot of women (young and old alike) respond to that obsession by wearing skimpier and skimpier clothes. I personally think less skin is more sexy - I dig modest clothing, long dresses, the kind of things women wore when they were "morally upright" (or is it "uptight"?). BUT, that's my own opinion. I exercise that opinion through my own wardrobe choice, and in my case, also in the clothing I make and sell. I certainly don't get all preachy on strangers about it.
Soaring Eagle's right. You're focusing too much on what women look like and not enough on what they have to say. It's not HER issue that you can't look away from her tits - it's YOUR issue. Maybe you need to grow up a little.

 

hey, look, they are just clothes. If you can't see past the clothes and the skin to the real person underneath, that's your problem, not hers. Your "overgrown conscience" sounds more to me like serious control issues if you think your comfort level should dictate how other people dress themselves.

 

My first thought would be that that's probably what she wore to class, to lunch, to dinner, etc. Not everyone goes home to change into sweatpants before going to the library.

Of course, at my current university, I know there is a certain area in at least one of the libraries that is basically a huge pick-up spot. Guys and girls get all dressed up to go "study" with all of the other dressed-up little boys and girls, who are all really there to impress one another, whether they get any real studying done or not. Did you accidentally stumble into one of those zones? Here, that's found in one of the reading rooms that is designed with comfy chairs and cozy tables for people to sit and read or study in small groups.

If you don't want to deal with that, go work in a less popular part of the library.

 

Woah, wait a minute, A woman has the right to go out with almost 'underwear looking' clothing and i don't have the right to not get distracted in my study area? i don't want to move anywhere else, she has the right to stay there and so do I and the way I see it, I have the right to not get distracted while i am studying.
Second, what the hell is wrong if a woman dresses properly? some how her rights are being violated? heh , i have a hard time believing that. If women have to show their skin to prove their right to freedom then thats just pathetic.
i am not asking them to run around in muslim veils , but all i am saying is she should dress in a way so that I don't have to see her inner thigh...and sure as hell men don't dress that way , why should women?

 

What? where did you get the idea that I see women as 'parts', I do not. Quite frankly, there is no difference between a man and a woman and i have no problems with this. However, when people wear clothing to arouse, I can't help myself but to look and drool, which in my opinion degrades me.

If you are so free of your base instincts that you have the luxury to not get distracted when a woman is provocatively wearing a miniskirt, then fine, i am happy for you. But you expect me to have control over something i don't , it just doesn't work.

 

Right, it is my problem that I seriously can't help but look, and its not her fault because although she can CHOOSE what to wear, but she does not and gets uncomfortable when i look, you know what i am apalled by the double standards in this world.

 

I agree with you Jedi. Not all women know how to dress appropriately while in school. How many times have we seen wardrobe malfunctions in a man's clothing? Not often enough to consider it a problem.

 

Hey you know what? I should just go to school with out a shirt, and in really small shorts, and go to class like that too, lets see how many comments i get. Ha! we can all go to extremes with "this is my right" crap, but really others have rights too and when you act so that your rights infringe upon other's rights then its just wrong. I really don't think asking you to wear normal clothes is somehow a ban on your rights, if it is then really everyone should just dump all the normal clothes and go ahead naked, because obviously clothing itself is an infringement upon our rights, right?

 

Absolutely nothing.
But there's also nothing wrong if she dresses in a way that you deem "improper"

Hey, if nudity was socially acceptable I'd probably wander around nude or in just panties during the summer. But it's not, and winters here get to -40, so I rather like clothes.

Sure, go to school with no shirt, I don't care. If that happened here with a cute guy, I'd give 'em an appreciative look and move on. Hell, it happens in the first week of school here a lot, especially our outdoor play area, where guys are just in shorts throwing a football around, peopl ehang out outside because it's one of hte last few beautiful days, nobody's got signs up saying "stop wearing skimpy clothes men!"

I know you don't want to move your study spot, but she has every right to dress that way and be there. And you have every right to move your spot to a place where you'll feel less distracted. You cannot force someone to change what they wear, but you can choose to not look or to find another spot where you won't see that as much.