Guess im in a sad state of affairs

Im glad to hear this. My wife has said this on more than one occasion, but I always thought it was to spare my feelings.

I guess we're in a sad state of affairs. I dont know the last time she's actually cum

Dont get me wrong, Ive been extra romantic...Ive always tried to learn what she likes...Ive even tried four or five times to explicitly say "this time is all about you." But it seems to me that she's given up on getting anything out of sex.

When we first started dating we both really enjoyed sex. I think, as happens so many times with girls of an earlier generation (we're both in our 30s now), she kind of used sex to win me over...instead of really liking it in the first place.

It's been 7 years since we've gotten married and Ive gotten freakier and she's gotten less and less interested in sex. Several things factor into all this. She's part of that 1% of 1% of girls that have extra blindingly painful periods which affects whats going on down there a lot of the time. She's been to the doctor to see if there's something she can take to up her sex drive but they dont really seem to have a pill for that.

She's told me that when she masturbates it takes her a really long time to cum anyway...so I think she's just given up on me making her cum (she says she's sore after 30 or 40 mins of even light stroking).

What really gets me riled, besides the fact that I dont want to go 7 years without her having the pleasure of a great orgasm, is the fact that she never initiates sex. And when I say never, I mean never ever. It makes me feel unattractive and like having sex with me is a chore.

I know Im not a bad looking guy...and I know Ive made girls cum with some frequency before (One ex I had let me know quite bluntly all the time). We just seem to be stuck in this rut.

Guess we'll wait and see what the doctor says about some new treatment she's supposed to get. She's my best friend and Id never leave her, but damn when I see this new generation of girls...wearing low cut jeans, acting like they love sex, and looking so damn good it reminds me of the situation im in.

I suppose I just needed to vent. Thanks.

 

I don´t know if this is an option for you. Did you try on MDMA or Coke? Not is a safe solution, and not is a definitive solution but... It´s a fun solution at least for me.

 

I wouldn't go for drugs, personally.

Have you asked her what turns her on?
What her fantasies are?
Where here erogenous zones are? (I mean beyond pussy and tits here, ie my back and neck are ridiculously sensitive)

Damn, 30-40min of stroking would make me sore too without a lot of lube and some variations/other forms of stimulation for a while.

Have you asked her to masturbate for you so you can see what she does?
Do you guys ever just make out/fool around without ever getting to sex? A lot of chicks find it frustrating that all kissing/tender touches have to lead to sex after a while with a guy, just getting turned on can be fun without any follow through (not every time this way either, but simply for variation)

 

You mean like Coca Cola? Damn,this explains so much!

 

I don't know...maybe you should lick her punanananani.

 

according to all the experts, shes entering the age best suited to sex - for a womam But Jeez, man, you gotta get her roused up and horny. You don't sound all that excited yourself. Have a couple of drinks (even if you don;t drink), relax and play with her, tell her nice stuff, work your fingers (allo'em) around on top of her, down the sides and over her back and especially her ass. 30/40 mnutes is a long time - a finger starts to hurt, but ma nature gave you a tongue that works down there juust fine. Make sure you know where the clit is. I don''t care ho0w old you are, you may have been missing it. flick your tongue on the head afew times, and if she responds try staying there for 30/40 minutes. Keep your hands moving, fingers all over the place pinchin and prying. Sorprise her with a quick poke (gentle - like) up the ass. If she don't complain keep going back there for longer and longer....keep the tongue going!. If she starts cumin' bear down, DON"T QUIT, even if she begs. Ride her clit with your tongue and finger wiggilin' up there 'til she's screamin and kickin' the bedboard! Man, go get her, an go back for more - over and over! Forget humpin' for awhile, this'll work fine. Give her a chance to have lottsa fun. Do it!!

 

It may sound strange, but there are people who just don't enjoy sex. It's no reflection on the partner sometimes. If you're really trying all you know how to do, and she isn't accepting it, where do you go from nowhere?

My suggestion is sex therapy. I don't mean the kind that someone comes over and makes you feel better, I mean real therapy. There may be issues in her past that make her predisposed to not wanting or liking sex. Just because you've been married for seven years doesn't mean she's told you everything. Not to say she's being dishonest, if that's the case, it just takes some people longer to get it all out.

 

Yeah, I didn't hear anything about oral sex bro! If you flunk your oral exam, you will n ever pass the cum test

 

Brilliant! It may surprise you that many women don't LIKE having oral sex performed on them. And that isn't the issue.

 

Listen to what the ones before me have said...they all have very good suggestions...

And my personal suggestion would be to watch some porn with her-lesbian porn to be exact.