Hey guys (merged with) what should I do?

I started a thread a couple of months ago. It described the relationship of me and my boyfriend Garrett. But that thread has gotten really long, so I figured I would start a new one.

My boyfriend and I have taken time to just enjoy our relationship for a couple of weeks now, but he says that he really wants to come out to all of his friends and family. He says he wants to tell everyone that I'm his boyfriend. I'm a little nervous about how people might react. Do you guys think we are ready or should we wait a little longer?

 

Thats really between you and him....there are lots of factors to consider...school...family...you two are so young...and then, what if it doesnt work out..???

 

I'm not so sure about it. But he really wants to do it. He tells me he wants the whole world to know how much he loves me. I think thats sweet of him, but I'm afraid of how the kids at school might react.

 

If you guys out yourselves...and then you break up...everyones going to know your gay PLUS they will know that you were actually WITH a guy !

 

I have to agree--this is all still fairly new for both of you, especially him, as he was living a totally straight life prior to just a few short weeks ago. I don't see a reason to be in such a rush. Ultimately the decision to come out to his family is his, but it involves you and you both need be comfortable before anyone else needs to know about it. But really--take the time, no reason to push things so fast right now. You're still so young.

 

The ladies are right. I think you should talk to him about it, and about how you feel about it. Are you ready for what he wants to do? Myself as an example, I've been with my wife for 18 years. I'm not ready for her or anyone besides my Hip forum friends to know I'm Bi.
Only you can decide.

 

If he really wants to do it, that's fine. He just needs to make sure that he understands everything that comes with being gay - how everyone's going to react, the fact that it's not just something you can "take back," etc. If you're not comfortable coming out at this time, then he shouldn't push you.

 

I dont know what its like where you live. But I also think that we often make mole hills into mountains when we worry. In my shcool everyone knows Im gay and has no problem wahtsoever, ive never been given trouble for it.
I think its important to eventually come out about it...youll feel better. Maybe some people will care, but whos expectations are you trying to live up to?

 

Thanks for the advice. He and I talked about it. And he told me that he would agree to wait until we are both ready to come out. Thanks guys!

 

Good luck baby.....you know im thinking about you !!!!

 

Its good that you did talk about it and he is willing to wait to tell anyone.

 

Sorry I haven't kept my promise to some of the viewers of my previous thread about my relationship. Particularly erzebet and others. Its just that its been kind of normal lately. We've just been enjoying our relationship. I also wanted to thank everyone from my previous thread for all of their support and advice. You guys were so awesome to lend me your hands when I needed them. And you did it so nicely too. I'm just not as experienced as you guys are. This was all so new to me to be in a relationship. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you guys again for all of your love and kindness.

 

Hahaha....Baby , Im not as worldly as everyone else , and , Ive been fortunate to have enjoyed a pretty peaceful life, all I did was care enough about you to give you the same advice I would give to any of my little brothers on here....and Im glad you are doing well. Love you Baby !!

 

erzebet1961 u are such a beautiful soul sister! I thank the Gods for people like you.. your advice comes from the heart and thats a beautiful thing..

Hip-Hoplover1 glad u have love man.. its a powerful thing.. much luck to you and your bf!
Brightest Blessings!

 

Welcome Salem....and Thank you so verry much for your kindness !!!

 

Thank you Salem. It is wonderful to be in love. You know what? Sometimes when Garrett and I manage to spend the night alone at either his or my house he makes me breakfast in bed. I just had to tell you guys that. I think he is so sweet.

 

That is SO romantic !!!!!

 

It IS romantic!

 

But you know what some of the best things he's done are? Sometimes when we have to get up early. I will just stand there in the shower and he will be the one who washes me. He'll wash my hair, and my chest, and my back. Then after we're finshied in the bathroom he will lay me down on the bed and give me a massage. He's always doing things like this and to be honest it really makes me feel good when someone shows me this much affection.

 

How old are you? Good luck