Shes 21 and she has never experienced anything.. EVER

Ok i have a friend Mary and she really really wants to go out with me.. shes 21 and she has never even kissed a guy in her life.. now she is overweight but that part doesnt bother me at all.. my question to everyone.. is it right for me to be her first boyfriend.. because i have deffinitly had more experience then her.. i dont want to ruin her innocence.. i do care about her so i really need some help.. should i just not be her boyfriend.. or be her boyfriend and see how things play out

 

Just because you're with her doesn't mean you'll take her innocense. Gotta grow up some time, as long as you're respectful and communicate with each other then who cares what you're past is, my opinion anyhow.

 

yea pretty much what he said, she wants tobe withu cause shes ready to be with you
if u care bout her then why not give it a shot & hope for the best?

 

if you care about her, than go for it. dont think of it as you taking anything away from her, you giving to her. And if you truely care for her than your the best person that she could be with. Shes 21, its time.

 

You say she really wants to 'go out' with you. Do you know what she means by that? Are you assuming she wants a sexual relationship? Are you prepared to go out with her WITHOUT with no guarantee of a sexual relationship?

 

Well you seem like a very cool guy, and it is very sweet of you to be so concerned about her like this.

I say go for it as well, because she's obviously interested in you.

Don't worry about her inexperience, she is probably ready now, and is comfortable being with you.

Good Luck!

 

Belive me im not one of these guys just looking for a sexual relationship.. but she has told me before that she was tired of being the only one in the group that hasnt done anything at all.. my only other concern is that she is pretty imature.. and that is a major concern to me

 

Immaturity can be overcome easily enough if one is willing. If you can help her grow both sexually and as a person, and she enjoys doing so, then I say you're only helping.

 

no one has ever said that.. thanks

 

Whatever happens I wish you both the best....just take a chance and see where it goes. If you don't you may regret it for the rest of your life...

 

its a non-issue as long as respect and dignity are upheld. if you care about her and she cares about you, and so long as you aren't abusing her trust, it will be fine.

i dont believe in "innocence" really. its as if to say you're guilty of something if you've made love before.....naïvete would perhaps be a more appropriate term, and at 21 it really doesnt need to be held on to much longer!

i lost my virginity at 17 with my first girlfriend, who while she had never had intercourse with anyone before me, had engaged in oral sex with quite a few people. the only other person i've slept with has also been with a good number more people than i have....and this subject has never been an issue. in a loving relationship, so long as everything is consentual and nurturing, its pretty much impossible to think of someone as dirty or defiled.

never having done anything, at 21 years old no less, i'm sure she's anxious to get a bit more experienced, if she's anything like most people! you don't have to worry about stealing something thats given willingly, you know?

i say if you like her and want to be with her, you shouldn't worry about it and follow your instincts.

 

Someone has to be her first boyfriend. It may as well be you.

BTW, her inexperience does not necessarily indicate 'innocence'. After 21 years she is probably begging to have her cherry popped.