is it selfish to worry about yourself..

when i know i dont have it worse thna it could get? im so alone, im good at keeping my emotions back now but i decided to come to this site after a while, and its liek breaking me down, i know the life i want ive expressed through this place many times. i just want something more, something pure. i wish i could be around people that understand, or if they dont understand still attempt to relate, atleast try? ya know? i m tired of people with problems that concenr money or a certain thing, im sick of myself for failing to rise above them at times. i jusrt wish like, i was out there, living life free, i used to say i dont know what stops me, but i do. in the most basic form, motivation, no one who shares my thoughts, then theres family honor, i feel liek i owe it to my parents to keep going to college and try to make something of my life.. its hard doing that though when i want to live simple, they dont know what simple is, my father see's going to work all day coming home is simple enough, inwhich it is, but the simplicity i want is more spiritual, than material. i have concenrs for my basic beliefs, are they pure? am i deceived? do i rely to much on others, or a thing? what is my goal? what ave i achived.. i havent had a chance to gain clarity enough to know...ahhhh, i jus wanna cry man, its easier and i hadnt dont it in so long. my eyes liek strain, theres no reason to cry in my mind ebcause nothings wrong im just weak. im not at all who i could be. well, should eb,.. i dont know who i COULD be. that would take more time. man, im sorry, im just gonna cut this man, thanks for reading if you did, i am sorry for complaining, take care of yourselves..
raxorsandroses@aol.com if youd ever liek to talk, peace n love

 

So not selfish. I hope you're doing okay.

 

hey man. na, you aint weak at all....the weak are the many that feel this way but won't admit it to themselves or express it. In my exprerience or way of thinking, you must reach this point in order to find your true self. as long as you let yourself feel your emotions without judgement you will find meaning.

 

quietthinker,

to change your life, is not to just worry ... but even as you change, you will worry less and less. As how can one feel guilty about living their own life ?

Honoring others is honoring your own being, and being true to your own self. It is not about pleasing others. Looking for security, and trying to fit in sometimes becomes a pretty lonesome walk. Walk with your own Self then and know inside yourself you are not alone.

And do not compare with others and not rise above them, and do not put them down either. They but reflect your own journey. Where will you go ? You are the one in charge ... and this is wonderful ... what an adventure.

Just love who you are ... and just take all your courage ... listen to your heart song ... find what you feel is truly yours to do, and go for it. I'm sure it is pretty much about everything else than about worrying.

Yeah a bunch of advices
Much love

 

You just need some suffering.

 

Sometimes it becomes very difficult to know who you are, what you want, what you believe, and how to react around other people who don't understand you... when you are judging and relating yourself to someone else's frame of mind.

You have to find your own. It's not selfish to worry about yourself... you're life is carried on by you. How else will you continue if you don't take care of yourself. If you're worrying about yourself there's probably something you need to change about yourself. It's not helpful to keep worrying... you have to do something about it. It can take a long time for you to feel comfortable with your life and around other people, but you have to be true to yourself. You will discover what you want and who you are when you look at yourself through your own eyes, and not the eyes of your parents and the other people around you.

 

thanks everyone, id respond with more depth but its late but i wanted to express my gratitude, have a goodnight
peace n love

 

I think you are at the state wherein you wanted to search for yourself and yet, you are binded by the norms of the society. THat you have to do this, and that to be successful. But success is not just having all the luxuries in the world. I have experienced that as well. But I decided to search for myself for it could help me to be whole and complete.

Why don't you think of what you really want or desire in life?what you really want to achieve? Then, learn to motivate yourself in achieving this. you said you lack motivation, then, let your goals or desires motivate you.

Don't think that you are weak. You'll be if you think so. Think positive instead.

I hope I've been of help to you.




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