can love bridge the void between nutritional philosophies? this is a big one, maybe even bigger than religion, because people have to eat so often. i've seen couples deal with the veg vs omni thing, but usually without much grace. vegan banishes meateater to only eat flesh outside of the home and ludicrous scenarios like that! or meateater puts on caveman act and in defiance of banishment, tears into raw meat...
I think it can be done with a little bit of respect on both sides. The omni can try to eat other types of meals more often or totally.... and the vegi. can try to compromise also. It's all about if the love is strong enough, a compromise CAN be made (at least that is what I believe)
what if the omni HAS to eat meat protein, regularly throughout the day? and if they dont , their health suffers immensly?
simple ya each eat whsts right for you..with recognition that the meat might make the veg partner ill to be around, so with respect you just avoid rubbing it in the others face. likewise the veg hasta respect the choices of the omni & not constantly nag them to go veg its just a matter of respecting eachother but every omni i dated was barely omni (only ate meat on rare occassions) so it wasnt that big a deal if she'd have chicken once sa week or something (as long as shed brush before kissin me, couldnt stand kissing right after shed eat meat) having said that, i'd rather be with a veggie anyday
Yeah kinda what soaring eagle said.... I think a little bit of respect about personal preferences was allowed it would work. The vegi doesnt wanna cook or smell the meat? The omni can maybe eat a few ounces of meat for strength during their lunch.... grill a few ounces of chicken, eat some lunch meat..something... and they can try to compromise too by digging good veggie meals at other times. I think if there is love, with respect it can work. (of course there are fanatics though.... sorry for using that term, but people who just wont tolerate and that is where i guess you have to evalutate together with your partner what matters most and weigh it out)
very good piont lucky, as with religion, if your just too fanatical your views will be too strong to accept the others and then your pretty much limmeted to those who believe exacty as you do
my boyfriends an omni and I'm a veggie. It makes no difference for us. I do not push any kind of belief system on him, even though I have explained the slaughter process to him and he is aware of where his meat comes from. I even cook bacon for him in the morning. As horribly gross as bacon feels to the touch, I do it, because I love him. And he loves my veggie cooking and will actually go without meat for a few days on occassion. all on choice But if I was one of those ethnical preaching veggies I do not think it would of ever worked, but I'm not... I just do what I see best for my own body and leave it at that.
So, to clarify -- what sort of "veg" are you talking? When I was an ovo-lacto vegetarian, I had no real problem dating an omnivore. On the other hand, a hard-core vegan just might... Of course, it depends on whether they can put their differences aside to meet in the middle (him with his steak and her with her tofu) or whether the smell of meat makes the veg want to puke.
As someone who is a strict carnivore, I would have absolutely no trouble dating a vegan - so long as she wasn't the proselytizing type. The diet choices of individuals have no bearing to me whatsoever on whether I think they are cool people or not.
My mum is a vegetarian and my step-dad is an omnivore and it makes no difference. They just eat something different. It doesn't cause any problems, excpet sometimes my step-dad will tell me I'm eating meat pie and totally put me off my dinner cos I'm a vegetarian, but that's me he's being mean to, not my mum
I'm a veg and my boyfriends a meat eater and it doesn't cause any difficulties, he'll eat veggie food now and again with no problem if we're cooking together.
At one point, I lived with a omni...and I was a veggie. My rule was, I will cook what I want to eat...and you can cook what you want to eat. If you want me to cook for you, you will be eating vegetarian food. I didn't care if there was meat in my house, but I can't, in my right mind, cook and serve a meat-containing meal myself. It's against everything I believe in. I also wouldn't buy the meat, but if he wanted to buy it...I didnt care. Luckily, I found a wonderful veggie boy...and things are so much easier.
My boyfriend is omnivorous and I never push anything on him.. I'm just not that type of person. Vegetarianism is a personal choice for me. It doesn't make any difference in the relationship, really.. he actually cares so much that he refuses to eat meat around me.. he thinks that it would be a total turn-off to kiss meat breath, heh.. I can't argue that it wouldn't but I'm pretty laid back. I suppose it would be much more difficult if we lived together, but knowing my boyfriend, he'd probably convert to vegetarianism by his own will .
food is one of the many big issues but defiantly not comparable to religion. just look at n. ireland or the middle east..or the crusades centuries ago...people go to war over religion..not food differences. uprises due to lack of food, yah..but I don't see it as a big of a problem as religion, not even close.
out of the whole thread, this is what you chose to focus on? some people take their nutritional stances verrrrrrry seriously! eating meals together is something that is really important for family bonding. almost all social occasions either center around food or the food plays an important part of the occasion. sharing food is an integral part of every culture of the world, it's the glue that sticks us all together! i'm hearing pple say things on this thread like: we made separate meals, omni doesnt like what i'm making, too bad, they dont eat we dont kiss if he's eaten meat meat might make the veg partner ill to be around those are a big deal! and the 'compromises' that i'm seeing on this thread are all about the omni giving up meat protein! that's not compromise, that's conversion to veg. there's nobody on here saying, i'll make meat for my loved one even though i dont eat it. there are some omni's who require quality meat/fish/egg protein at every single meal that they eat. it's simply not enough to 'eat some luncheon meat' (ew, gross btw) on the sly once a day. ps, i do actually have a lot in common with the veg/vegans that i know irl. most are enlightened forward thinking folks.
I couldn't agree more. While I have dated vegetarians and it wasn't THAT big of a deal, I do enjoy sharing a similar diet. I'm an omni and eat pretty much everything. I love food and have a great passion to try new foods all the time. Sharing this passion with someone adds a lot to a relationship.
crystal did say she cooks bacon for her boyfriend though she's a veg, but that does seem very rare. My fiance cooks meat for his family but he has a big problem with ppl cooking meat on his dishes, he wouldn't use our cutting board to cup up hotdogs for out dog, and wouldn't kiss me if i ate tuna (the only meat i eat is fish, and pretty much only tuna at that) but i don't know if that was his strong conviction of vegetarianism or my tuna breath. (haha)i live with my omni brother who eats lots of junk so i let my mom buy his stuff, or let him buy his stuff and i buy my stuff. we share expenses on mutual things like bread and i cook veggie stuff for both of us... and he has ordered cheese pizza for both of us. i'm really glad you made this thread nimh food is very important in relationships and gatherings and all that over stuff you mentioned....
well my sig. other is vegan and I'm omni, but there is no problem. He doesn't try to push any agenda on me, and I don't on him. I am now very aware though of anything that I buy that he might eat, or when we go shopping, I check labels on pretty much everything. That's just like second nature now though, not a big problem. And I've also started to eat more veggie than before. Just last night we made homemade vegan pizza. It was yummy!
Thank you I was going to say something :0 I also make sandwiches or whatever else he wants... just bacon is the grossest so I mentioned it. It takes me 3 washes for my hands to even LATHER after I touch bacon, and thats sick when I have to make my veggie food last!! since it cooks quicker... But yes I agree that to me food time, or eating together time is important. I tend to cook for us and when I put my time in a meal and he doesn't show up til it's cold or doesn't want it!! well he gets alittle boot! (but I know to ask him first b/c he's picky and I accept that about him) But that may just be differences between people. If I just cooked for myself and didn't do for him like I do (and many women arn't the only cookers now, but I kinda choose it becuase I feel like i'm expressing my love one more way!!!!) I think it would hurt. But again, our roles as people are changing and women arn't the stay at home moms like they were. But I could not picture never eating with my sweetie when he eats meat. I think it would make us fight because then I would want him to change to accomadate me. And that wouldn't be fair if it wasn't what he wished
