Right, im a virgin, ive not done anything with a girl apart from kiss. I know some if not most will laugh at that, but I am not the type to go right into it. What I wanted to know is... If I were asked to "pleasure" a girl, e.g. Licking her out or fingering her...how would I :s, sorry this seems like a strange question, its just I never done it. What do you girls like when being pleasured? \m/Bob\m/
First of all, it's not a strange question. You're not expected to know this stuff by instinct. I'd be very surprised if a girl came right out and asked you to 'pleasure' her. And if she did, you'd have no way of knowing what SHE meant by it, so you'd probably have to ask her. The thing is, if the girl is a similar age to you she may not have any experience either, so you'd be fumbling around like most other people do when they're learning about sex. This is really a complex question. I mean, even if a girl asked you to finger her, there's more than one way to do it. She might want your finger inside her, or she may just want you to stroke her pussy lips or clit. But some girls don't like having their clit touched directly as it's too sensitive. So, in her mind she may mean that she wants you to touch her like she does it to herself when she masturbates, but again, there are lots of ways that girls masturbate. If all the girls here answered your question 'what do you like when being pleasured' you'd get lots of different answers. Sorry if this doesn't seem to be helping a lot, but like I said, there's not a straightforward answer to your question. Usually, with a relationship, you start with simple stuff and build on that if things are going OK. So, you start with kissing, but then you might start kissing elsewhere (a lot of girls like their neck kissed) and you'll start using your hands, but that doesn't necessarily mean stright on her boobs or between her legs. There are lots of places girls like to be touched and stroked; for example my girlfriend used to get really turned on by having her wrists stroked. You wouldn't think of that as being a sexual move, but later on I learned that it made her wet without fail. I mean, she liked other places as well, but I could touch her wrists in public and only I'd know that it was making her horny. You also need to pick up signals from the girl. Don't assume that a girl you're dating wants to have a sexual relationship. She may not be ready, or she may not want to go too far straight away, or may not be interested in a sexual relationship at all, so don't be pushy and don't try to force her to do anything she obviously doesn't want to do. You may have to just be satisfied with whatever she's happy with at the time and relieve your sexual tension by jerking off on your own until either she's ready or you decide you're not compatible and break up. The trick is to find someone who wants the same kind of things you do, and that's no easy thing to do.
I dont mean this to sound wrong or anything ... I have a female friend, and she sometimes gets horny and just wants someone to do something with, and I dont know whether its a good idea or not to get "practise" on a close friend :s.
The problem with doing it with a 'friend' is that it can ruin the friendship. One thing is for certain, it will change the nature of the friendship. Maybe you need to think about that and discuss it with her before going ahead. But if you DO go ahead, make sure YOU have condoms. Do NOT take any chances about this. This is to protect both of you and prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
Then again, if she's a 'close' friend and you agree to practice on each other, it is a safe environment for you to try things out. It could be a lot of fun. Do you think it could turn into a serious relationship? Do you fancy her? It could be tricky if you do and you get strong feelings for her, but she really only wants a fuck buddy. Or if it's the other way around and she fancies you, but you don't feel these same about her.
Yea, I dont want to ruin the relationship I have with her, I am the only one that she can tell things to as I know how she feels, so we are pretty close. But I would like to learn how do it sometime, and with a friend is good I suppose, but then there is the issue of pregnancy :s, i dont know what to do really...
I fancy her yes, and she know's I do, but she doesnt want to risk out friendship by getting into a relationship. She does want a fuck buddy, those are the words she was using lol. She has had sex before, whereas I havnt, so Im stuck really
Another thing to think about is that getting into a relationship with her may be a good thing, you just can't tell. But if she's sure she doesn't want a relationship with you, being her fuck buddy could be disasterous for you, because you'll just fancy her more. There are no easy answers, I'm afraid.
Yea, I didnt think of it that way, I just needed someone to open up a new tunnel...and you have done that, thanks very much!
Regardless of who you end up having sex with, a matter between you and the potential partner, practice these five words in the mirror: "SHOW me what you want." You will fumble, you will falter. That's how you learn.
You're right, but that can be hard to do when you're 16 and not experienced and maybe not very confident.
Yea, im just gonna leave it, i am not going to risk our friendship over it. Its not worth it at the end of the day.
Yeah, the confidence is a big part, I was just saying, even young that's a good place to start. It would be my counsel to anyone. Horny 24/7, That was a great choice. Friendships CAN be ruined by sex, people put a lot of emotion into what they choose to do with their bodies. For some, like me, there can be a separation of sex from emotion. Theres is sex, there is love (the emotion), and there is making love where the two come together. Some cannot separate them, and those of us who do cannot expect those who don't to try. Don't push the sex issue just for peer pressure. Half the guys that told you they're getting some are full of shit, and the other half aren't doing it as often as they say, if more than once or twice. Of course there are exceptions, but don't sweat it. The best thing you can do for yourself, is be yourself. Don't let what others think or do influence your decisions - at the end of the day, you are the only one you HAVE to spend the rest of your life with. Your decisions concerning yourself make no difference in others lives, why should theirs make a difference in yours?
Thanks for that, I really appreciate everyones help! I guess some will understand the urges one gets from being horny for the need to do something sexual with someone other than personal masturbation. I will resist though. As she is close to me. Once again, thanks for all your help people! Bob
