rejection

i've chased this girl around for more than a year, asked her out maybe 3times, each time she rejected me. So i moved on, cut all communication with her. Now she's asking my friends why i'm ignoring her??

whats up with that...

 

She loves being chased.....she liked the fact that someone was after her !!!

 

should i ignore it and move on or give attention?

 

Thats hard to say...it sort of sounds like she just enjoyed the chase and wasnt really interested in the capture !!!!

 

Ignore it for a while, at least.

 

You can always try being up front with her. If you say, "Listen, I'm tired of chasing you just to get shot down. I just don't feel it's a good life choice for me to keep beating my head against a wall... it ruins my hairstyle. So good luck... see ya later." I'd be interested to know her reaction. She may simply let it go, which means you never had a shot. Or she may come back and show some interest just to see if she can get you to chase her some more, in which case tell her up front that's not going to happen. Or she may decide that she's more interested that she realized and actually come after you. The world's full of infinite possibilities.

 

I would have to agree with this. Why would you continue to chase her? If she is interested now let her do some chasing.

 

I'd agree, stop chasing her.

However, I find it odd that you cut all communication. Was she not a friend? Why end a friendship over this? And, if she was not a friend, why would you waste a year chasing her?

Maybe what she misses is your friendship, not the chase.

 

Or...Maybe just maybe their's no enjoyment that she gets from you chasing her, and she just likes you as a friend. Now she's wondering why you dont talk to her anymore. Maybe. Most of the time it's best to not overthink these things.... I should know.

 

Tell her she's put on too much weight.

 

"You always want what you can't have" comes to mind. You are now desirable because you have moved on. All I have to say is KEEP MOVING because if she was interested in you she would have dated you before you moved on.

The thrill of the chase is fun, but it should not be at someone elses expense.

 

Quit her decisively or she'll walk all over you. Hopefully she'll get the message that you're not a toy. Frankly, I'd suggest you try a woman only once next time. It should be enough if she'll be any good to you at all.