Hi there everyone - I am sure you get asked this question all the time, so sorry if it has come up a thousand times before, but I am about to go insane! You see I have this friend, he is quite a close friend and we have always flirted with each other. To be honest I have always had a bit of a thing for him and about 6 months ago I let him know how I felt. At the time he said something along the lines of "its not worth risking the friendship", which to me seems like a nicer way of telling me to piss off, and thats fine....but (and this is where I starte to sound like a high school girl) A mutual friend has been quite insistant that I not give up on him, although he will not tell me exactly what this guy has said to him, he assures me that its jsut a matter of time before we get together. As for the guy himself - talk about mixed signals! Oh and I suppose it is important that I mention he has a girlfriend at the moment, who in my opinion treats him really badly (lots of what I would call emotional abuse). So one minute this guy is really flirty, very close, like he is on the verge of making his move and the next he is really distant and cold. For example, at a party not so long ago he pulled me away from the pack and held me for about 15 mins as he whispered in my ear how much he cared about me and that if he had met me before his girlfriend we would be together right now.....but then later that night he was so cold and would hardly even talk to me. Also one night we were laying on his bed watching a movie and when the movie finished he rolled over and was laying there staring at me, so I told him to stop staring at me cos it was freaking me out a little, and he said "I like looking at you, your beautiful" and started playing with my hair. He implies to his family and friends that we are having an affair or something, and get insanely jealous when I talk about, or flirt with other men. We often get asked by strangers how long we have been together - but I think that is more because we are such close friends that we just have a very comfortable, relaxed relationship. I am just confused...I am not entirly sure what he wants from me. If I try to talk about it with him he either changes the subject or starts talking to me about his girlfriend and how he is going to break up with her soon. Any advice on what to do with this guy? I care from him deeply, but I don't know how much more I can take!
