i just started having sex about a month ago with my current boyfriend. problem is i'm somewhat self concious still and my mind seems to be elsewhere during sex. last time we had sex i was about to orgasm like 6 times but just couldn't let go for some reason. i've never had an orgasm from anything being inside and usually only play with my clit when i masturbate. i'm wondering if there's a position that makes it easier for a girl to orgasm? we just did missionary last time since it was my first couple times. is this just a matter of getting more comfortable with everything or what? i think he feels bad that i'm not getting off and i do too because it was sort of a dissapointment that i can't let myself go...almost as if i don't know how.
neither of you should feel bad, once you feel more comfortable it won't be an issue at all. Position wise though...doggiestyle. fuck. as soon as i'm on my knees I can't help but have mind shattering orgasms...
Well, many women find they do well going "cowgirl"... on top of their guy. It gives them more control of the motion and the penetration, and so gives a better chance of orgasm. Still, it may not be aquestion of position... it may simply be that you need to relax more so you can let it happen. Tension and uncertainty can lead to problems in this area.
Have the girl on her back with a pillow under her bum and her legs on the guys shoulders. Works every time!
I like the pillow under the ass thing too However, the best for me anyhow is doggiestyle, with her rubbing my balls with her sweet sexy feet as I slide in and out. I just love that, and it puts her in a position where she feels it good too.
Nerves will affect your ability to orgasm. If that's the only issue, give it a bit of time to get comfortable with the act, and the openess of being with a new partner. If you make yourself orgasm by clitoral stimulation alone, that may be your only source of sexual satisfaction, which is not unusual. You still have several options. Masturbate during foreplay, or have your partner help you, which gives you satisfaction, and relieves him of the responsibilty of your satisfaction. You can also do that after he is done, which continues the play for a while longer. Positions can be tricky. You being on top is usually best, because you are in control. When you're on top you can lean forward to stimulate your clit, or masturbate during the act. Missionary is fine too, but he needs to be doing it at an angle that touches your clit. But my guess is that if you come close, you'll get there once you're more comfortable with each other.
I had the same trouble when I first started having sex, but things changed a lot when I become more comfortable. Don't think about it so much just go with the flow! And as for positions I like being on top but the best is doggie style, its great I can play with my clit and love it when he pulls my hair!!!
doggie is great! gives him easy access to your ass and pussy. i dont know what the position is called, but when you put your back to him and sit ontop of him, that ones good too
I kinda like doggy in a chair, or on a couch...it gives great leverage, and gravity works in your favor.
Tigress - you are 18 and that is a good time to have your first sexual experience. Don't worry about having an orgasm during intercourse - only about 25-30% of all women can have it through regular intercourse, and another 20% or so can have it through regular intercourse and manual stimulation of the clitoris together. Of the other 50%, about 25% can only experience orgasm through manual stimulation and the other 25% never experience orgasm. There are two types of female orgasm - clitoral and vaginal - the latter is done by stimulating the "G spot" on the upper wall of your vagina on the bottom of your pubic bone opposite your clitoris. It is hard for a woman to stimulate her "G spot" herself without a device, so it is better to teach your boyfriend how to do it: lie on your back, with a pillow under your butt, and make sure his hand is clean, fingernails are trimmed well, and fingers are well lubricated. Have him lie on his back between your spread legs and insert his index and middle fingers or two middle fingers into your vagina, palm up, and make a "come hither" motion against the upper wall of your vagina about 2-3 inches in. He will feel a raised area in the middle of your vagina on the pubic bone after you have been sexually stimulated for a while. It often takes a while to get the "G spot" heated up, but when you come, it will be the most powerful sensation you have ever experienced, and the great news is that unlike your man, who ejaculates and is done with his orgasm for a while, you can repeatedly orgasm, up to perhaps 50 times (in my experience), although it is very exhausting for you to do it that much. Enjoy! Cutted
get on top, facing forward or backwards, either way is great. and him fucking me from behind also blows my mind. but ultimately, i would say just climb on top. cuz you can control the speed, the movement, everything. find the way you like it and go with it, and have yourself an amazing orgasm!
