when a girl gets aroused what does it feel like?

do u tense up if u used the vibe yourself..gently on your breasts
i think we're slowly getting closer to understanding this.. but without really understanding what hes doing wrong its hard to tell exacty how much of the issues him how much you
i almost want to prescribe ya both taking rebirthing and then practicing some breathing excersizes & deep relaxation before you do anything
i think you also gotta get over your fear of touching yourself.. and learn to relax into accepting pleasure

ok..lets try something ok? close your eyes.. take several very deep breaths & let them out as a deeply relaxing sigh.. just let your entire body go limp & relaxed then trythre nipple stimulation but doit yourself..relaxed..if u tence up repeat the breath.. (try to clear your mind..but pay attention to any thoughts that creep in)

 

ok tried that!! first thing that goes in my head is oh shit!! so i stopped and tried again, but i couldnt relax.

look yesterday when on my own i tried just placing a finger inside of me, i got to the point of getting my first finger in to the the first joint down, i couldnt get any further, i just wanted to pull out but i forced myself to stay in there for 10 secs longer i had to use m other hand to make it stay put! i was shaking and crying and that with my own finger!!!!!!

ok back to the excersise, so i started with just one finger around the very outside edge it kinda feels goose bumpy, but as i moved closer i felt like i was asking myself why an i doing this and started to get panicky again

 

think back...way way back
to when you were very young
most girls start to touch themselves as infants even though they dont have orgasms or really truly masterbate untill well some masterbate as early as 5 or 8
but think back was there a time your parents..caught you? and made you feel ashamed?
theres definately a block there
this may take some serius work to get through it & find a way around it but 1st if we identifythe cause will help
but you know i think we're making progress

 

i honnestly have never touched myself!! honestly!!!! i was made to believe that my body was horrible by everyone around me i am very dark, i have a lot of body hair and can remember the kids taking the mick! i would try to get rid of it from around 9-10 but when mum saw me she went mad with me telling me that it wasnt something to do and to leave it alone and that i had to live with it etc etc. i tried to ignore her and had to use other ways, but the piss taking didnt stop there, mum and dad constantly made remarks about me not being like my blue eyed blonde sister who was thin, tall sporty, totally the opposite of me!!

 

hmmmmi'm wondering something
actualy yea ithink we should take this private, cause i think i have a possible theory.. that maybe..slightly off the wall, but..i know your parents are pretty ..weird..& your not in contact..but..ithink u should contact them just to askthem 1 question..but i'll talk to u privately

 

of you? nah thats ok...i'll pass

 

There deffinatly seems like some deep-rooted problems here. It's clear that have a feeling of panic when it come to anything sexual, you hold alot of negitivity about it. Alot of people that have been raped hold the same kind of negitivity that you discribe. One thing that helps alot of people get over it is a meditation excersize. You sit however your comfortable and start to touch yourself, when you feel the negitivity/panic stop, remove your hands and just observe the emotional pain, try and understand it, then envision a river, and imagine your problems turning into a stick, lay it on a lily-pad and send it down stream, contiue to do this until you have #1. Idenitfied your problem, and #2 Removed the negitivity.


Arousal is something that is very dependent on the person, I could tell you how it feels for me to be aroused, but not how it feels for you. One things for sure though, having any kind of bad feelings to do with sexuality or sex will not allow you to experience it, and the first course of business shoudl be to remidy that.

If you'd like me to write you out a more detailed discription of the meditation, please feel free to PM me.

Love and Loyalty,

Sarah

 

thanks for that i have pm d you to see what you have to offer!! i know i have to get rid of the negativity but its so hard to do on your own

 

It's no problem I'll pm you with 2 guided meditations, just got to give me some time to type them, they are very long!