This may sound old and probably the 100th time

Man, I'm still a virgin and 17. Never had a girlfreind, always to shy to ask a girl out. LoL, I dont know why im typing this. But im just always fucking horny, and i want to fuck someone. I was talking to one girl not to long ago, about the way i felt about her. Which she kind've laught (didnt laught, but did something that insulted me) in my "face"...

All the people i talk to, say im a great guy. But i dont know, i just cant bring enough will up, to ask a girl out or even talk to them sometimes... And if i do ask a girl out, and go on a date with them... wtf do i do, i never went on a date before...

lol also i never really kissed a girl once... I dont know i just had to say that... >.>
I guess, im looking for some help, and opinions... adn the general shebang of "its alright" type of deal, which usually follow in these forums ...

 

Look around to see if there is a girl watching you, or who gives you a smile or perfunctory eye-contact.

Build a relationship with the girl in your school or neighborhood, or soft-ball team whatever - first of all. Instead of asking her out, suggest something to do. An interest both of you share in common. The more active and productive that interest is, the better off you'll be.

Become comfortable with her as a human being and as a friend, and then express your affectionate interest sincerely, without any idea of gain. If you get rejected, look FORWARD. There are other women who'll take an interest in you.

Then, if the feeling is mutual, let the body do what it wishes to do. But make sure to wear a condom. As a general rule, when you're really horny - jerk off. Horny is not the best state to be in when interacting with women.

 

The perfect girl will be given to you. At 17, you have the whole world all to your self. Enjoy...

 

Well confidence is key, and you cant be very confident around girls. DO you think your attractive? If you dont you need to change that before you do anything else.
A lot of people think its just that you havnt found the right one yet, but i dont agree. You have to like the way you look yourself first.

 

Well, I guess i look hot... but i got acne... thats teh only thing that makes me ugly i think... Oh and i got a crapy build, but im working on that, really slowly...

 

Awww, don't worry. When the time is right, it will happen. Don't feel bad, I mean, you're a teenage male, your hormones are raging, and you're unsure of yourself, it's all normal. And honestly, it's admirable this day of age to not have been with anyone at 17, so feel proud! Timing is everything!

I think the best thing you can really do for yourself is work on your confidence because you are entirely too hard on yourself!

 

You are just fine....dont try to rush something as important as tossing aside your virginity...thats a special moment...and you only get to do it once...and then..you cant take it back. Make sure its with someone who is just as special as what you are giving her !!!

 

Oh yea and its probably best you dont fall in love. Its the best feeling you will ever experience and the worst all in one experience. 3 months and im still getting extremely depressed, its really not worth it!

 

also, one of the reason why im still a virgan. Is that i refuse to use someone. For whatever, I just dont like it when someone uses me. So i dont try to use others for my personnal gain.... So that one and probably the major reason why im not in a relationship or still have my virginity...
But it still makes me mad...

 

Dude there are like 40 year olds who are still virgins....although those kind of people are often made into comedy movies lol.
I am still a virgin at 15, i plan to lose it at the prom night next may. This leaves me plenty of time to work on a 6 pack, so im more confident lol.

 

I disagree with all posts relating to the presumed "importance" of virginity or the fact that you should be proud to "in this day and age" (statistically speaking people have sex later today than they did in the 1970s - but apocalyptic minds would have you think otherwise) still be a virgin.


I also disagree with any reluctance to "fall in love" - whatever that really means. I humbly suggest that you toss aside all ghosts of our Christian tradition relating to virginity, love, etc. As well as all pre-conceived ideas of when and how you should have sex.

Have sex when you individually feel it's going to be an uplifting experience. Period. Be neither proud nor dejected by your current situation. Sex is sex. It is a biological function. It is important in our psychological lives, but not sacred. At least not any more sacred than eating or sleeping, although both those things also have a profound impact on our psyche.

As for your reluctance to "use" another person, I would also be careful. Define what "using" someone really means, in detail. Otherwise you may fall victim to the puritan ideas that were forced into all of our heads since we were born.

Having sex simply because it's enjoyable is NOT using someone. The only possible ills that may be derived from sex are either unwanted pregnancy, STDs - and therefore don't neglect to use a condom -, and psychological ills arising from a lack of understanding between you and your partner as to what the experience means to each of you.

By the way, I do agree with Eazy-E, however, that understanding your insecurities as well as possible, and being honest with yourself is as important as anything you can do to meet a woman/girl. No matter what age you are, self-reflection is important.

 

I totally agree with hippychickmommy. Also, I find that I have to let go of wanting something so bad, and then it happens. I realize that at 17 this is not easy to do. I would say focus on something else you are really interested in, get into doing it (macrame, playing guitar, learning French, designing some kind of spacecraft), and watch how the thing you wanted so much starts to flow to you. It's like you need some distance from it.

 

So the old saying (i dont think its an old saying, it was in this stupid internet comedy video) "When you stop looking for it, you well find it", Type of deal?

Thanx for all the advice...

 

that's really good advice!

and about your skin. get some help for, watch what you eat, drink lots of water and green tea and of course see a doctor or go to a beauty salon and get some treatment .you can also use masks and stuff at home, but skin is fragile.. dont use too heavy stuff.


good luck



oh.. and don't forget to jerk off before you go out with a girl!

 

it would be ideal for you to sleep with someone who has more experience, so it wouldn't be such a big deal for her emotionally.. and you shouldn't be afraid about using her.

but yeah... start with just hanging around with girls do Other Stuff with them have some good time, and get your first kiss!

+ confidence IS very important.. there are 2 things i love, innocent schoolboys and men with attitude