Still Searching - time to give up hope?

Hi Guys

I've been searching for love my whole, and finally when i thought I found it...I find out that she was in love with her ex and only started loving me recently. we together for 4 years now. I'm 23 now.

i feel i've never had love and theres no hope for me to find it...

i've given up on love!

i also stopped searching and waiting for it to find me...given up on that too

 

You are way too young to give up....maybe, stop looking for awhile....it might come find you !!!!

 

Sadly, some people spend their whole lives looking for their true love.. Others find someone that cares about them deeply but let it slip away due to insecurities and other issues that together they could overcome.. Don't let one bad experience ruin it for you. When you do find someone you truly love and adore, please don't let her get away from you.. There are good people in this world.

 

23? Are you kidding?

Stop searching...it will come to you when it's ready.

 

Shoot, by 23 I'd had a whole whopping four girlfriends, and I started pretty young with dating. It took me into my thirties to find someone I really found I was truly in love with in a big way. But I never tried to make it happen. The time I did that it cost me several years of my life and almost everything I owned before the repercussions were over. Don't give up but don't force it. Real love simply happens... you don't find it by going to Mapquest.

 

If you give up that easily your going to have a long life ahead of ya.

 

^^ yep, i agree with that.
its sounds cliché cuz everybody always says that. (that love will find u without u searching.) but its just true. u can say "I GIVE UP", but maybe u'll fall for someone tomorrow..

 

Instead of looking for love you might want to try looking inside yourself to see why you feel that there has to be someone else in your life. You should be able to be happy alone, otherwise when you get in a relationship you expect the other person to fill the void. Or in plain English.....be content in your own life before you involve someone else in it.

 

I would definately have to agree with that saying also. There have been times when I could tell that a girl was very into me but down the line when you think if you loved them or not you tend to keep telling yourself no because after that one time it's never that same instant attraction from her. So far the only one that I said I love you back to was this girl that I always knew of her (cuz she is a good friends sister) but yet never really knew her. Then two months of dating later she says she loves me for the first time, and I believed it was real cuz she still looked at me the same as always. Like they always say...."the best friends make the best lovers"

 

You'll have the biggest surprise one day. One day you will heal and would love again.

 

Look, Dude, you're not giving up on finding someone, you're giving up on yourself! Are you that bad? Do you smell? Forget to shave? Burp in girl's faces? Wear dingy clothes? Have last year's spinach hanging between your teeth? Are you that bad? Or maybe too needy to realize you don't get anywhere with a gal who keeps talking 'bout the last guy. And wasting 4 years while she pines; 'being understanding,' and waiting for her to crown you the successor? Get out there and make a better you available, without falling for the first sad-sack gal that comes along. Lotsa good ones available! And don't be too fussy about their looks, inside is what counts! Git!!