Boyfriend Refuses to Perform Oral

I had some health issues and needed surgery. Since I'm currently out of work I am on his health insurance plan. Hopefully I will be able to find a job soon and leave. Until then I have to stay because I cannot go without health insurance. He's a good guy and has put up with a lot of BS from me even though he's distant and a bit selfish when it comes to the bedroom. That's why I feel too guilty about cheating on him. Also the guys I've considered cheating with are real sleazy. I can't seem to find a nice friend with benefits anywhere. Things at first were different. The sex was hot even though oral was a rare thing. He had no experience with it so I thought once I showed him a few things it'd be different. Then I thought I could live without it for awhile but that's not working out too well.

 

It would be a shame to break up with him. Is oral that important to you?
You could try not having sex with him or kiss him or anything else like that unless he gives you oral. If he is fine without having physical contact with you then he either doesnt find you attractive of hes got problems.
Blackmail is ur best bet!

 

no dont black mail the guy thats just childish. you could try sitting and talking to him and explain to him how you feel about him not satisfying you enough and that you two either need to go your seperate ways or learn to live seperate lives and yet still be together. you shouldn't feel guilty abou thim putting up with your bs thats what a relationship is dealing with struggles enjoying the good times and learning about eachother. if you feel that you need to leave him then do it. im sure that you could go to a shelter and they could help you find a job and get back on your feet. if you need health insurance go to your states website and look up free health insurance. you have plenty of options to chose from you shouldn't feel trapped or guilty or feel that you have to stay with him. if you decide to leave him tell him so and just leave its better to get out of the situation now than to stay in it any longer.

 

catholicism can make you weird about sex. Back off a little, try a little less and wait for him to come around. Try to empathize with what he might of gone through and why he has these hang-ups. Tha's just my opinion don't know how much it's worth!

 

Be a Lot more Demanding.

Get separate bank accounts.
Don't co-sign anything.
Get yourself a job with benefits.

 

It may not be your thing, but how about a girlfriend who is sexually frustrated. You could help each other out. It wouldn't necessarily make you a lesbian, or even bisexual to have a fling with another woman, and the oral a woman gives, as opposed to a guy, is awesome!

 

Um, I really wouldn't be going about finding another lover until you clear it with your beau. And if he's that anti-oral, he probably isnt' gonna be good with you having a side lover.

 

GREAT suggestion!

 

hmm I have a problem like you. but I love to doing oral sex to my girl, but she don't want me to do it...

 

But, uh, haven't you said in other posts that you hate receiving oral yourself?

 

yes, ihmurria I wrote that. but now I am saying that I WANT do oral for my girl, but she don't want to GET it.

 

I'm not contradicting that, but...

if you hate receiving oral, can you understand that maybe she feels the same way? I dunno, just a thought.

 

JBA722, dump him! He's been hurting and humiliating you - won't ever change. Simple answer: DUMP him and get on with a healthy sex life supporting a healthy live-free life! Do it now!!

 

ihmurria, I know what are you thinking about, but i read at on example Wikipedia that woman want it so much than man, and much man don't want to do that for woman.

I have exactly inverse situation, heh