I posted this in relationships too. Hmm, I probably already know the answer.: Imagine scenario: I dig a co-worker. I am trying so so much to repress my flirtatiousness, (to a point) Usually, I am physically attracted to a guy first, but then it always seems he has only a few common interests with me. But this man: we both dig the same music, he's confident, but speaks softly. He's strikingly handsome and we have the same humor. I want him. He's married. Do married men like to know they're wanted, or is it just confusing? (not that I think something would happen between us.) If I were to, hypothetically speaking, leave my job, would it be out of line and irrelevant, and just plain self-centered to tell him that his wife is very lucky? What good could come of that? I am trying to channel my sexual energy somewhere else, but I don't know how much more I can take.
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By telling him you could make things awkward. My advice, keep it to yourself. But if he's reciprocating (sp?) the feelings, maybe he'll say something. Just hope his wife doesn't find out. There's always divorce right?
I'd say something because otherwise the feelings will haunt you for years. You'll be wondering "what if". Tell him how you feel, and that you respect his marriage and don't want to disrupt, but thought he should know how wonderful he is. Be prepared for him to draw a line, and if he doesn't and instead wants to fool around, make sure you make it clear that he only gets you IF he ends things in his current relationship first. You do NOT want to get into a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship. I mean, flirting is one thing, but actually getting into bed with a married man would be asking for trouble.
