So a lady friend of mine and I realized we bot hwanted to experience anal sex. Last night after sex, we decided to try something. Remembering things i had read about anal play we used lots of lube, and after covering a finger ina condom I rimmed her with my finger until she was ready, and they told her to "take it in". Well she began moaning and arching and there we were, the first thing to enter her ass. Se wanted another finger so I pulled out and we went for two. She ended up going right up against my hand. We thought we could pull off entry, but not yet. She went wild with my fingers up her ass, between her moaning and grinding against my hand, I know she wants more. So here are my questions 1. While my hand was gaurded by a condom I felt feces up there. Now would i have felt that had she had a bowel movement before we tried? 2. Two fingers worked, but my cock didn't get into her. Should we work our way up or did we miss a lesson? 3. When removing my finger/fingers she felt like she was going to defecate on herself. is this a normal sensation, and is there anythign we can do to make withdrawl more comfortable for her? 4. Any ther tips or suggestions? I'm eager to finger her ass again, and masturbate her with the other hand. I never expected that anal play was this exciting.
hmm well my first experience with anal was with an ex of mine who wanted to try the same thing. just ease it in with lots, and i mean, lots of lube we went straight to penis(he was avg size). just ease it in and dont make it too rough on her
Did you ease it in standing or doggie style? We have no clue on where to start. also my cock is quite thick.
Have her use an enema a few hours before, don't eat for at least a few hours before, After the enema, put a butt plug that gradually widens to about the size of your dick up her ass and have her wear it for a while (1/2 hour?) during some good foreplay. Also, use a dildo that is just a little smaller than your dick to keep her open, use the dildo on her after two fingers and the plug, hold it in there and use a vibe on her clit to get her turned on. If she wants you to, you can slowly fuck her ass with the dildo too--the idea is to get her relaxed and used to the feeling of being stretched that wide. It will probably be easiest to get your dick inside if you are sitting on the edge of a chair or bed, have her back onto your dick while you hold it up and in place, let her sit down and press down onto it herself, she can be in total control and decide how fast/far your dick is going to slide into her hole. This is what I would recommend for your first few times. Once she has stretched far enough to slide down on your dick she can use a vibe on her clit while moving around on you. IF she seems pretty relaxed about the whole thing, then maybe have her stand up and bend over the side of the bed for you to put it into her. The advantage here is obviously for you--you get to watch as your dick presses against her and stretches her open as you slide in, you will also be able to add lube easily, she can still use the vibe on her clit. IF you are slow and careful, and let her be in charge, AND make sure she gets to come when you are in her ass, this will be a "feel good" experience for her that she will want to repeat. Withdraw whatever toy or your dick slowly from her so she doesn't feel the urge to go so strongly. It is natural to feel that as you are mimicing something exiting her body. And coming across some fecal matter may or may not happen--it goes with the territory and you boht have to just accept it as normal if it happens. Have fun, practice make perfect.
Now? that was a very complete guide and there was a great deal of helpful information therein. I appreciate your suggestions very much, I'm sure my partner and i will be able to make use of some of them. I have no experience with enimas though, how would one advocate that as a part of sexual play?
Increase number of fingers, start to open fingers to stretch, after a period of days or weeks, she'll be ready, depending on how relaxed she can be with her sphyncter (muscle around the orrifice[hole].) Forget the poop, if you're into the sex that's not important and discussing it can ruin a good thing. I'd even forget the condom - but I'm only into ladies I know real well. By the time the condom arranging, fasting, enemas, plug-insertion, chair-gyrations, toy withdrawals, showers, unobstructed view observations, and antibacterial cleansing are over, you've lost the most important thing: spontaneity! But you're young yet, maybe poop is a challenge! Oh! And another thing, while you're in the fingering stage: turn 'er over and offer her and yourself a good twenty minutes of combined finger twitching and cunnilingus. Yum! :drool::drool::drool:
Anal sex generally takes planning--spontaneity sounds painful to me--unless it's something engaged in regularly. btw, like the smilies, where'd you find them?
Most definatly, this is not something you should try, especially the first time, in the back seat of a car, or out in the woods someplace. The important thing is to take things slowly and plenty of lube. She needs to relax especially when you push. A condom is a good idea for anal to reduce the risk of infection or disease. This should only be done by two consenting people. If she is not into it you won't get into her. Forcing anyone to do anything sexual they are not readily willing to try can only lead to disaster. Some women like anal but not oral, which amazes me.
Thank you all very much. I think I will buy my friend a plug, and we can play with that for a time until she is very comfortable and fexible. thank you all very much
