Are you a masturbator? We definitely are! We are an attractive couple, in our 20's, who are absolutely addicted to masturbation. Several years ago we made the embarrassing, but inevitable discovery of our mutual addiction, during a two weeks vacation together. Mutual masturbation is now an essential part of our lovemaking and has created a special intimacy and depth to our relationship. Last week, we had an informal conversation of our lovemaking techniques, and tallied up the different methods we chose to bring ourselves to an orgasm, and came up with some surprising numbers: Ways We Bring Ourselves To An Orgasm: Masturbation: 45% of the time Oral Sex: 35% of the time Coital Sex: 20% of the time Our lovemaking can usually include all of the above, but we settle into only one mode, in the final home stretch to our orgasm. Another surprising find is that the list also reflects the intensity of our orgasms, arranged from what creats our most intense and satisfying orgasms, at the top of the list, to mild orgasms, at the bottom of the list. And at 45%, masturbation is definitely an addiction. Some points to clarify, both of us, male and female, always achieve orgasm from masturbation or receiving oral sex, but the male only achieves orgasm from coital sex. That explains the low rating we added up, as a couple, from coital sex. But as a couple, we always both achieve orgasms, in every lovemaking session. While we enjoy masturbating together as a couple, we also masturbate, to an orgasm, alone, or while the other is sleeping. And we often masturbate, independently, without achieving an orgasm, to simply fall asleep in the process. But these uneventful sessions were not included in our list, since an orgasm was not achieved. The main point of our posting this thread is to illustrate that masturbation should never be thought of as an inferior substitute for sex. We strongly feel that it is truly great sex -the gold standard to which all forms of sex and erotica are compared to. Masturbation gives us the freedom and allows us to fantasize about others, outside of our relationship. Our masturbation sessions last much longer than other forms of sex and we especially enjoy edging (orgasm denial), to skillfully tease ourselves, to prolong and refine our fantasies. And the stranger our fantasies, the stronger our orgasms. For us, masturbation is a very private act. We have read about specal group masturbation retreats, hosted at some private, scenic, northern California resorts, with a pre-screened, attractive, balanced mix of participants. But we have always felt that joining others, even if a class act, would only cheapen the experience. Yet we do have a strong desire to express our joy of autoerotica, in detail, in this forum. While not married, or even engaged, on impulse we have made a mutual masturbation pact, of sorts, by wearing a simple, inexpensive chrome beaded keychain, 26 inches (66cm) long, that snaps together at the ends and hangs the neck, with a body heat reactive mood ring hanging on it. We selected matching astrological mood rings, the ones with small stars and half-moons around the edge. Dark blue in color, the mood ring quickly turns to lighter, brighter colors when exposed to body heat. We wear the necklace/mood ring combination under our clothing, but sometimes pull them out, over our underclothing, to be fully visible when masturbating together. Our suggestion is that maybe this necklace/mood ring combination could become an icon, for other masturbators in the world to secretly wear under their clothing, and provide a profound sense of fellowship, even if masturbating alone. The necklace/mood ring could also be pulled out and visibly displayed in public when one is attracted to someone and desires to have truly safe sex (mutual masturbation) with. Just a thought. Maybe it'll even catch on. Judging by the postings in the Love and Sex Forum, Masturbation afficionados represent only a small fraction (less than 8%). But we feel that our small, close-knit group is a special find, and shares a warmth and closeness to each other that outsiders cannot comprehend. We can also assume that many of the visitors to the other sex forums are simply seeking erotic raw material -for their masturbation fantasies. Are you a masturbator? We'd love to hear your feelings on the subject. hugs, - HotCaliforniaCouple
congrats. More couples should be open with their masturbation. I mean we ALL do it. Why not include the person?
I love shows about sex or any type of shows with sex in them, especially movies that focus alot on the sex, not just a kissing part, I mean the whole damn humping thing to. I can't stand that one lady though that is always on the oxygen channel. She reminds me of this lady I work with so everytime she talks,all I can picture is her having sex and it just freaks me out a little cause I don't like to look at her that way, she's like a mom figure you know?
can't get enough of listening to her explanations about how to stroke the clitoris with your big toe. hahaha
We'd probably have to go back to the ice age to find why humans have -and enjoy, a lifelong masturbation addiction. People are able keep themselves out of trouble, and experience much higher levels of erotica, by resorting to masturbation. If we did not masturbate, we would be tempted to engage in unacceptable behavior. Qualities of the raw, early human organism often do not fit into the modern self-image we project, and instead get buried in the biological shadow based deep within our cells. The beast we inherited from our animal ancestors is very much alive, albeit often beyond the threshold of the conscious mind, beneath the skin, completely outside the boundaries of our self-image. Whether done spontaneously or methodically, satisfying the sexual impulse by masturbating, all the way to an orgasm, is an excellent way to "outsmart" the biological mechanism, which originally functioned as a method of reproduction. Embracing masturbation, as an act of completely giving in to our hedonistic impulses, keeps our sexuality out of the shadows. The enthusiastic enjoyment of this very accessible pleasure should always be encouraged.
