Straight women who go to gay bars so they can relax...

...and in doing so attract horny straight guys to the place because they think no-one else would've thought of that idea first, thus making them more or less the same as any other night club:

Discuss.

 

I know it happens, but I don't think its all that bad, at least not here. Most guys don't go into lez bars because they know they aren't welcome. Lesbians seem to be a bit more vitriolic toward guys than gays are toward women.

 

It's happening a lot here of late. To me, the whole point of gay bars is that, if you see a guy you like, there's a more than 50% chance that he'll be gay, and if he's straight he'll at least be civil. But the kind of guys that come in after these unsuspecting girls are quite often not like that. I'm not saying the majority of the guys are straight of course, but it's enough to make you feel like it's not a "gay" environment. And to be honest, without that, it becomes just any other club but with worse music.

I wouldn't imagine lesbians would have the same problem though, as very few straight men are going to be looking for a refuge from all the female attention they get whenever they go out.

 

I don't think girls go to gay bars to relax...its because they have gay friends. Girls are always looking (maybe not actively) just like men are

 

our city doesn't have a gay or lesbian bar so who knows.

 

Nah, trust me. I've heard it from them. They say how nice it is to be able to go out and not have guys drunkenly hitting on them all night. They usually tell you this after drunkenly hitting on you all night. Maybe it's a British thing, but I don't know. They think it's soooo Sex & The City.

 

I love it when straight women go to gay bars, the gay bars here have never turned straight because of it and the type of men that would go to hit on women tend to be more accepting of gay people anyway.
the reason I love it, is because I can sit down have a chat and possibly make a good friend (which I have done) and she will still be there long after the causual sex has gone home
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Oh gawd,
I hate this subject, because I have to interject.

I came up in the day when the ONLY place you could dance, hold hands, flirt with your boyfriend was at a gay bar. There is a big bar here that has many great memories for me, but I can't go there anymore. The straights have ruined it.

The bar is an icon and years ago it started to attract Bachelorette parties to watch the go-go boys. And then the girls started to bring their boy fiends, Sometimes to test how straight they were. I don't care, but it's crewel to see those jocks clinging to their girls like you're going to take them away -either the girl or the boy. And but you know, the next day they're like: "been there, done that."

The gay bars used to be a refuge from the dirty looks you got on the street. I mean, at least you understood the dirty look at a gay bar, it meant you're going out with his "x". I would like to believe the influx of staights to the gay scene means acceptance. I don't buy it. It's seems more like nervous, up-close, gawking. I feel like it's a kind of discrimination. The straight folks proving that they can come into our bar and but we can't go to theirs. Like going to the zoo, but a petting zoo, where you get to sit in the cage with the animals. That doesn't mean you approve of their nasty behavior.

Okay, so the gay bars are open to straights now. To come and gawk. Like watching Will and Grace or a Mardi Gras parade. Fine, but I don't know anyone who still goes to the bar I'm talking about. When the conversation comes up it's like: "you go there?"

When the day comes that I can dance with my boyfriend at the Holiday Inn (at any time) and security will defend my right to do so, then the purpose of gay bars will be a thing of the past. Until then, I am nonplussed by the current developments.

p.s: by straight, I don't mean heterosexual. There have been heterosexual faeries for years.

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So what's with this straight women's fascination with gay men?


Bustramp

 

Not sure about the rest, but this is basically my beef with the whole situation. It's not that you even feel a threat from these guys, it's just that, if you know you're in all gay company you know you're more or less safe whatever, whereas if you know that there's straight folk around there's always that nagging doubt, and it's enough to make it feel less safe and more like being out in the street.

(For the record, I'm not a wuss, and am not afraid of kissing in the street.)