I'm in love with a guy. He broke up with his girlfriend right at the end of summer, and we started "dating" even though I'm 150 miles away at college now. It's not like I just started loving him recently though. We dated in jr. high, broke up, hated each other for a bit, then became really good friends. I don't think I ever really stopped loving him, and that love grew and matured as we both did. Or so I thought... turns out that for him, I was just a very special distraction while he tried to work things out with the girlfriend, and now they are getting back together. I'm hurt beyond words. I keep trying to forget about it, not think about it, and it isn't working. It's like I'm on standby in case things don't work out between him and this girl. I really should have seen it coming. Maybe it's what I get for hurting him so long ago... blah. But hey, it made for a great life lesson, I think. If only I could magically stop loving him, or turn it back into that good friend sort of love that we had for so long. In any case, just wanted to get that out, and to tell you all that if it seems you are a rebound girl/boy at ALL, stay away. Wait it out. It's worth it, and will save you a lot of heartbreak. ~Nova
Sorry to hear about that. Only you can allow yourself to be on stand-by. Are you hoping it doesn't work so that you guys can get back together? Thats how its sounds anyway. Don't let him come back into your life after bailing on you for someone else, the trust will never be there. I know it is hard to get over someone you love but sometimes it is just necessary. The pain will go away with time, that is the only thing anyone can say. Good luck to you. Good Advice.
Nova, snap out of it, he obviously doesn't care for you as much as you care for him. As much as it hurts you to hear that, it's true. You need to treat yourself better and respect yourself. You deserve WAY more than he has to give you, and you should realize that. You deserve someone who respects you, for who you are. You deserve someone who will be honest to you, care about your feelings, and put you first before anything else in life. I guarentee you that if you wait for him, even as a friend, he will try to slip back into your life, and most likely only for sex or other selfish reasons. He is an "energy vampire", using you to bring himself back up when he is down. Don't allow it. Know that you are valuable, you are worthy of true friends and real relationships, and that you are special. Maybe I could help you. If you need any help or someone to talk to, let me know. I'm betting you have a matching MEI(Mental/Emotional Image) picture with me because I've been meeting a lot of people in your situation lately, and helping them out of it. But anyway, like I said, you are worth MUCH more than what that guy has to offer. Feel free to contact me via PM or MSN. Good luck. ^_^
