My fiance gave birth to our second child on saturday 10/28/06. Her manager was clearing out her desk today 10/31/06, says he already has someone to fill her spot. Apparently because she has only worked for the company for 6 months instead of 12 months they are not required to a) hold her position or b) provide another postion with equal status/pay. They have said they will keep a job for her somewhere within the company but that chances are it will pay a lot less than the job she has been doing for the last 6 months. Her manager is an asshole and the HR dept at her company says he gets the final say on if she gets to return bck to her former position. So, now she is talking about going bck to work in a week or 2 instead of 4-6 weeks. It's bad enough that she isn't going to be paid while on leave, but now the job she has (and enjoys) is going to be taken away, because she had a baby... I've searched the net and haven't found anything useful (FMLA states she has to be there at least 12months to be protected). Is there anything that she can do to retain her postion or at least be transfered to another postion that offers equal pay to the one she is losing?
Any possibility she can stay at home with the babies instead? I don't know your financial situations, but many times, being at home is more economical in the long run, not to mention just being able to be there for the kids, well, to me, that's priceless.
She enjoys her work and we can't afford for her to not work. They also provide tuition reimbursement for nursing school that she wants to make a career from. I wouldn't mind if she stayed home (hell i wouldnt mind if i stayed home), but that's not what she wants, she wants to keep her job. I support her decisions. We've gone over our finances and i do not make enough for her to stay home.
In the meantime you should look into WIC and other programs for mothers and children to help ease some of your financial burdens. You may also want to trim the fat a little on your expenses (no more eating-out at lunch, cancel the cable TV, things like that). My husband and I are refinancing our car and looking into loans to consolidate our debt before the baby comes so we can afford to have a parent home at all times when our baby comes. She could possibly work part-time and avoid having to pay for child-care costs. With the loss in income she may also qualify for financial aid for school through FASFA and other orginizations. Just some thoughts. For now, is she able to draw unemployment? Do you have some sort of health insurance for the baby? It's unfortunate she cannot stay at her current job. I'm in a similar position, I explained it a bit in the thread you posted in women's issues. Hopefully she'll find a more family-friendly environment to work in.
That's a sad story, but your newborn baby is well worth the sacrifice. I wish you good blessings on your life.
Thanks for the advice. We are already on WIC, dont' have cable, don't eat out. We don't have any debt (well except a car loan, but that's up to date on pymnts) and i've been trying to set back as much as possible. Frankly, speaking from experience, she really enjoys working and i know she wouldn't want to stay home. I've been cutting coupons since i was 11 and i've eaten enough ramen noodle dinners to know a few things about penny pinching. This thread isn't about how i can spend less, it's about her trying to retain a position she is good at and enjoys.
Judge much? I don't spend money on "dope", and you don't know shit about how i raise my kids, so shut the fuck up.
As far as I know--most companies that I have ever dealt with all seem to have the 12 month policy regarding FMLA, which also means they don't have to hold her position--it sucks I know!!! I know with my company if we sign up for it, we can get short term disability that we are able to use 6 months after our hire date...did she sign up for anything like that..it might help so that she can use her full leave time. I'm using mine this spring when I go on my maternity leave. I think it was really underhanded that they did that to her especially so soon after she delivered, they should have tried to work with her... sorry I don't have better advice, but I hope everything works out and she can retain her job in some way or find something similar that she likes to do.
who are you to say that mamas and papas are bad parents because they put their children in day care? I will have a college degree when I start to have a family. I plan on teaching when I'm a mama. I plan on putting my children in a day care when they are age appropriate. Children need to be around other children to develop social skills. May be you don't understand the cost of living is raising, but saleries are not. It is close to impossible for three people to live on one income comfortably. I was put in daycare my entire childhood and I have developed a greater sense of responsibility than the people I know who didn't go to day care. Why are you judging these people and assuming they are dope heads?
