okay there is this guy who i find myself very attracted to. not just attracted to, but i actually really really like him. the only problem is that my really good friend also really likes him, alot. and she was the one who introduced me to him in the first place. they are really good friends, and i just met him. yet i feel like i might have a better chance of a relationship with him. i dont want to screw up my friendship, because i know that my feelings for the guy will pass eventually, but i seriously have fallen hard for him. should i talk to my friend?
yes, definitely talk to her. i was in a similar situation with a friend in high school who felt she had the "better chance" with the guy, and instead of talking to me about it (because she knew damn well i liked him) she just started going out with him. needless to say, we didn't remain friends. at your age, friendships are more stable and more rewarding than relationships. i would put your friend first.
this happened to me...he dated a girl who he knew i liked, and after it was all done he had the oddasity to tell me i like too many of his gf's and that i should go after my own women! pfff...oh well, it was grd 8...i didnt really hold it agaisnt him.
Yeah sit down and talk to your friend about it... friends are so important and the friends you make when you are young or in your teens are usually the ones that go on to be your true lifelong friends (at least I have found this to be the case in my own experience and in the experiences of many of the people I know). It's always best that you both know where you stand with each other now and in the future should this guy ask either of you out. Ask each other how you would each feel if it were the other who was 'going out with' the guy. It might be that your friend will give you her blessing, and you give her yours, and just be happy for which ever one struck it lucky. Or it might be that you both decide that he's simply not worth it, and that where one of you to go out with him over the other, it might just hurt the other too much and thus damage the friendship. Whatever happens remember that when you are young men will come and go, but good friends you really want to hold onto because later in life it's not as easy to make new friends, acquaintances yes, but real friends, no. Goodluck
you had better weigh your friendship against just how much you like this guy, because i seriously doubt she will give you "honest" blessing unless she is with someone else, she may say its fine but still feel betrayed and betrayel ruins any kind of real freindship
